What's Wrong With Saying, "What's Wrong With Me?"

What's Wrong With Saying, "What's Wrong With Me?"

Because there isn't anything wrong.

When it comes to relationships in college, it’s no secret that they hard to, not only find, but also maintain for a lasting period of time. Everyone is looking for that special someone to cuddle up with, especially as the colder months are approaching, and spend time with to do just about everything with. Time and time again, from my female and male friends, I hear the question of, “What’s wrong with me?” And I’m here to make it known that absolutely nothing is wrong with anyone.

College is a place of never ending change. These changes occur day-to-day, but more importantly year-to-year. Coming into this portion of your life, you’ve heard plenty of times that college is where you find yourself. The things you appreciate, what you’re passionate about, the things you dislike, and, most notably, the people you enjoy surrounding yourself with. Yes, all of these aspects are true, and yes, you will discover all of those things, but sometimes the other person or people you’re interested in haven’t yet, and that’s okay. That does not mean that anything is wrong with you.

Every person you come in contact with in college has their strengths and weakness, and, whether they are known to that individual or not, it is not your duty to “figure them out” by “playing a game.” It is up to that person, on their own, to realize who they are and the type of person they want to be. Some people don’t figure this out until they’re thirty years old, so why are we expecting our peers to know by the age of twenty-one? Why are we blaming ourselves for things that are out of our personal control? Why do we automatically assume something is wrong with ourselves? The thing is, it’s not even that there is something wrong in general, because there isn’t. The only thing that’s wrong is our outlook. Never forget that life has a plan and that, if whomever you like now doesn’t feel the same towards you, there is someone far better out in the world that will come into your future one day. Everything takes time.

There is not, nor will there ever be, a characteristic about yourself that is flawed. Different people appreciate different aspects and attributes of others lives’. Sometimes they match up, but most of the time they don’t. You are perfect the way you are, and don’t ever let anyone try to change you or the person you’re becoming. Too often we fall short of other expectations, but what about the expectations we set for ourselves? Do we fall short of them? This is something that I personally think people forget about and overlook in college…myself included.

So the next time you go to think to yourself, “what’s wrong with me?” Stop. Reflect on the bigger picture that there are SO many aspects that pertain to developing an intimate and long-lasting relationship with another human being. I promise you that one day you will find that. It might not be today, tomorrow, and even a year from now, but that special someone will come along and, in that moment, you will realize there was, and never will be, anything wrong with you.

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30 Things I'd Rather Be Than 'Pretty'

Because "pretty" is so overrated.

Nowadays, we put so much emphasis on our looks. We focus so much on the outside that we forget to really focus on what matters. I was inspired by a list that I found online of "Things I Would Rather Be Called Instead Of Pretty," so I made my own version. Here is a list of things that I would rather be than "pretty."

1. Captivating

I want one glance at me to completely steal your breath away.

2. Magnetic

I want people to feel drawn to me. I want something to be different about me that people recognize at first glance.

3. Raw

I want to be real. Vulnerable. Completely, genuinely myself.

4. Intoxicating

..and I want you addicted.

5. Humble

I want to recognize my abilities, but not be boastful or proud.

6. Exemplary

I want to stand out.

7. Loyal

I want to pride myself on sticking out the storm.

8. Fascinating

I want you to be hanging on every word I say.

9. Empathetic

I want to be able to feel your pain, so that I can help you heal.

10. Vivacious

I want to be the life of the party.

11. Reckless

I want to be crazy. Thrilling. Unpredictable. I want to keep you guessing, keep your heart pounding, and your blood rushing.

12. Philanthropic

I want to give.

13. Philosophical

I want to ask the tough questions that get you thinking about the purpose of our beating hearts.

14. Loving

When my name is spoken, I want my tenderness to come to mind.

15. Quaintrelle

I want my passion to ooze out of me.

16. Belesprit

I want to be quick. Witty. Always on my toes.

17. Conscientious

I want to always be thinking of others.

18. Passionate

...and I want people to know what my passions are.

19. Alluring

I want to be a woman who draws people in.

20. Kind

Simply put, I want to be pleasant and kind.

21. Selcouth

Even if you've known me your whole life, I want strange, yet marvelous. Rare and wondrous.

22. Pierian

From the way I move to the way I speak, I want to be poetic.

23. Esoteric

Do not mistake this. I do not want to be misunderstood. But rather I'd like to keep my circle small and close. I don't want to be an average, everyday person.

24. Authentic

I don't want anyone to ever question whether I am being genuine or telling the truth.

25. Novaturient

..about my own life. I never want to settle for good enough. Instead I always want to seek to make a positive change.

26. Observant

I want to take all of life in.

27. Peart

I want to be honestly in good spirits at all times.

28. Romantic

Sure, I want to be a little old school in this sense.

29. Elysian

I want to give you the same feeling that you get in paradise.

30. Curious

And I never want to stop searching for answers.
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To The Generation That Might Not Care, A Green New Deal Is Crucial

Take care of our planet and our future.


The reality of climate change and method to address the issue has been a source of contention in the United States for far too long. While Republicans trail behind Democrats a great deal in the percentage who believe long-term, irreversible climate change is a real problem, an equally if not more important gap to acknowledge is that between generations.

A universally taught science concept in elementary school is the difference between weather and climate. Weather is the day-to-day condition of the atmosphere — rainy, sunny, etc. Climate is the weather of a particular geographic location over a long period of time. The weather in an area may be snowy on a particular January day but might overall have a warm climate (Trump has yet to learn this concept).

The gap between generational support for not only believing in the reality of climate change but if the government should take steps to prevent further harm on our planet is apparent. A few reasons that older generations may not support aggressive climate change policies are that many are not going to see the lasting impact of their harmful actions, may not want to acknowledge that their way of life for a majority of their life was detrimental to the environment, or that they simply do not think it is the government's role to further regulate current practices and lifestyles in the name of the environment (an argument supported by many conservatives).

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The "Green New Deal," proposed earlier this month by Rep. Alexandra Ocasio-Cortez and Sen. Edward Markey is mainly a list of ideas and goals rather than a carefully laid-out plan, though aims to eliminate greenhouse emissions through the creation of millions of jobs in the renewable energy industry, moving toward public ownership (a major source of disagreement among Republicans and Democrats), and much more. This plan is a comprehensive overview of many sources of environmental degradation that our nation has not addressed, despite the majority of the nation believing the climate change is a real issue.

There will undoubtedly be a major shift in the operations of many companies due to aggressive climate change policies, which could have been avoided at a drastic level if our nation had chosen to make climate change prevention a priority. Unfortunately, according to the Intergovernmental Panel on Climate Change, global temperatures will rise to an irreversible level in 12 years if the United States and other countries that greatly contribute to rising temperatures do not take action. A sense of urgency has been lacking for far too long is crucial.

Written into the recently proposed Green New Deal is a section detailing how it will attempt to remedy the inequality of those most directly impacted by climate change. Vulnerable communities, particularly communities of color, are not seeing an equitable distribution in disaster funding to prevent damage inflicted by the increasing frequency and intensity of natural disasters that have resulted as an increase in rising global temperatures — Which, regardless of your age, should be a glaring flaw in our current system.

I personally doubt that the entirety of the recently proposed Green New Deal will be enacted, however, I believe that anyone who values the quality of human life, clean air, clean water, food sources, for not just those in the United States, but around the world, should be supportive of a Green New Deal.

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