"What's the Plan, Stan?"

"What's the Plan, Stan?"

It's okay to not know what to do with your life

"So, what are your plans after high school?" *crickets*

"What are your plans after college?" *more crickets*

"What are your plans for the rest of your life?" *sleep, eat, breathe*

I'll admit it, I'm a people pleaser. I like telling others what they expect to hear, "Yeah, I'd like to go to graduate school," or, "Yeah, I'd like to move to Boston or California and become a writer/editor," or, "Yeah, I'd love to get married and start a family."

To be honest, I haven't the slightest idea what I want to do with my life or what's realistic – and that's OKAY. Yes, I'm human, I have dreams I'd like to accomplish in this lifetime. They definitely aren't set in stone plans, but they are on my radar.

If people could ask, "What would you like to do after college?", then I'd be saying everything that pops into my mind. I'd like to go skydiving, or start a business. I'd want to go to Disney World (because I didn't have a childhood and would like to go someday). I'd want to travel the world and see things, meet people, experience cultures, and make an impact on someone's life. My list could go on, but that's because they're just things I'd like to do, and not a confident 100% plan.

Surprisingly, some people know what they want to do! And that's awesome. I wish I knew, but I don't. I'm not one to get my hopes up in case of failure, it protects myself from disappointment. I think many of us do put up a defensive wall to protect ourselves, but ultimately, we know what we want. Sometimes, we're just not ready to tell other people because then it becomes real.

Coming from a girl who has changed her major three times – from Pre-vet to Criminology to Strategic Communications – I definitely have no clue what the "plan" is. I'm not the greatest at school, and I'm trying to take on one semester at a time. Graduate school isn't out of the question, but it isn't in the front of my mind, either. I'd like it to be, but life works in ways that aren't always in our "set" plans.

Plans are safe. It's the thought of knowing. If you don't have one, it's the thought of the unknown, and it's considered abnormal by society.

It should be normal. It is normal.

Cover Image Credit: Emily Miller

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I'm A Woman And You Can't Convince Me Breastfeeding In Public Is OK In 2019

Sorry, not sorry.


Lately, I have seen so many people going off on social media about how people shouldn't be upset with mothers breastfeeding in public. You know what? I disagree.

There's a huge difference between being modest while breastfeeding and just being straight up careless, trashy and disrespectful to those around you. Why don't you try popping out a boob without a baby attached to it and see how long it takes for you to get arrested for public indecency? Strange how that works, right?

So many people talking about it bring up the point of how we shouldn't "sexualize" breastfeeding and seeing a woman's breasts while doing so. Actually, all of these people are missing the point. It's not sexual, it's just purely immodest and disrespectful.

If you see a girl in a shirt cut too low, you call her a slut. If you see a celebrity post a nude photo, you call them immodest and a terrible role model. What makes you think that pulling out a breast in the middle of public is different, regardless of what you're doing with it?

If I'm eating in a restaurant, I would be disgusted if the person at the table next to me had their bare feet out while they were eating. It's just not appropriate. Neither is pulling out your breast for the entire general public to see.

Nobody asked you to put a blanket over your kid's head to feed them. Nobody asked you to go feed them in a dirty bathroom. But you don't need to basically be topless to feed your kid. Growing up, I watched my mom feed my younger siblings in public. She never shied away from it, but the way she did it was always tasteful and never drew attention. She would cover herself up while doing it. She would make sure that nothing inappropriate could be seen. She was lowkey about it.

Mindblowing, right? Wait, you can actually breastfeed in public and not have to show everyone what you're doing? What a revolutionary idea!

There is nothing wrong with feeding your baby. It's something you need to do, it's a part of life. But there is definitely something wrong with thinking it's fine to expose yourself to the entire world while doing it. Nobody wants to see it. Nobody cares if you're feeding your kid. Nobody cares if you're trying to make some sort of weird "feminist" statement by showing them your boobs.

Cover up. Be modest. Be mindful. Be respectful. Don't want to see my boobs? Good, I don't want to see yours either. Hard to believe, I know.

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