What's Wrong With Being Confident?

What's Wrong With Being Confident?

Be you. Do you. For you.

Consistent self confidence has always been a reoccurring obstacle throughout my 21 years of life.

From a young age, I have struggled to find my place in this world. Find ways to make myself stand out.

I was constantly seeking ways to make those around notice and admire me.

Yes, I definitely wanted attention. We all do at some point.

And it's hard. In the world we are in today, it's so difficult to feel adequate. We want the most likes on social media, to be recognized, to have a large amount of friends in order to feel popular. We want to be seen as the best.

But these are only ideas of how the outside world perceives you.

And yeah I'm all for "being the best you" and flourishing through your talents, however you should do so for yourself. Not to improve how you're seen.

Others perceptions should never define your confidence.

Self confidence comes from within.

Worry about loving yourself, instead of loving the idea of other people loving you.

Seriously people!!

We must learn that confidence is not the idea of being like someone or something.

But it's about being ourselves, and owning it.

You should embrace your quirks and weirdness. Your flaws and mistakes. The traits that you tend to hide because you're afraid of the reaction of others around you.

Who cares that you're different, you're YOU.

And no one can ever be you!

Like ever.

YOU have to choose to believe in yourself.

Love yourself.

Be your own kind of confident.

And some may find themselves striving to feel more confident.

Truth is, we've all been there. We are all human and we have experienced insecurities from one time or another.

It's about making habits. You have to get into a routine of thinking positively and building yourself up.

First, you must start your day on a good first step.

Getting up a little bit earlier, eat a good breakfast, and arrive early (if you know me at all this is my weak spot!!). Allowing yourself enough lead way time to your destination will prevent added stress and anxiety!! Reduce the feeling of being rushed.

Something I have personally been working on over the past few years is to keep my head up when I'm walking to class. Unfortunately, it's so easy to just look down when walking across campus. Your in a hurry, your head's buried in your phone, trying to get to class (in my case almost running late).

It doesn't take long to look up and smile at the person walking past you. All my RBF ladies, you know what I'm talking about.

Show off that pretty smile. Be more open and approachable.

And speaking of being more approachable, do not be afraid to speak up in class. Put yourself out there to answer questions and state your opinions.

Yes- you risk the chance of giving the wrong answer. However, your teachers notice your effort put forth. I promise, it'll help you out in the long run.

Plus, it will help you become more confident in your opinions. You will begin to feel more comfortable about speaking out.

And eye contact. You should practice maintaining eye contact daily, whether it be during the brief interaction with a stranger, or nervously answering a question in class.

Great eye contact is a sign of confidence.

Truth is, everyone enjoys compliments, to be noticed. Everyone, at some point and time, strives to be admired and loved.

And right now if you're thinking no I don't...you're lying to yourself.

Because we're all human. We're all made of emotions and feelings.

And that's okay!!

So why not build up someone else's confidence when working on your own?

Let's help build each other up, not tear each other down!

Next time your admiring a complete stranger's shoes, go out of your way and say so! This will also help you come out of your shell and talk to those you don't know. You will grow to be more outgoing.

Being nice to others will promote positive vibes, and don't we all want that??

Improving your self confidence will improve your overall happiness. In return, improve your overall health.

So capture your confidence.

Figure out what you're good at, what you can flourish in.

Learn who you really are and what you're really about.

And soak it all in!!

Own what makes you confident.

And work it.

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When You Give A Girl A Dad

You give her everything

They say that any male can be a father, but it takes a special person to be a dad. That dads are just the people that created the child, so to speak, but rather, dads raise their children to be the best they can be. Further, when you give a little girl a dad, you give her much more than a father; you give her the world in one man.

When you give a girl a dad, you give her a rock.

Life is tough, and life is constantly changing directions and route. In a world that's never not moving, a girl needs something stable. She needs something that won't let her be alone; someone that's going to be there when life is going great, and someone who is going to be there for her when life is everything but ideal. Dads don't give up on this daughters, they never will.

When you give a girl a dad, you give her a role model.

If we never had someone to look up to, we would never have someone to strive to be. When you give a little girl someone to look up to, you give her someone to be. We copy their mannerisms, we copy their habits, and we copy their work ethic. Little girls need someone to show them the world, so that they can create their own.

When you give a girl a dad, you give her the first boy she will ever love.

And I'm not really sure someone will ever be better than him either. He's the first guy to take your heart, and every person you love after him is just a comparison to his endless, unmatchable love. He shows you your worth, and he shows you what your should be treated like: a princess.

When you give a girl a dad, you give her someone to make proud.

After every softball game, soccer tournament, cheerleading competition, etc., you can find every little girl looking up to their dads for their approval. Later in life, they look to their dad with their grades, internships, and little accomplishments. Dads are the reason we try so hard to be the best we can be. Dads raised us to be the very best at whatever we chose to do, and they were there to support you through everything. They are the hardest critics, but they are always your biggest fans.

When you give a girl a dad, you give her a credit card.

It's completely true. Dads are the reason we have the things we have, thank the Lord. He's the best to shop with too, since he usually remains outside the store the entire time till he is summoned in to forge the bill. All seriousness, they always give their little girls more than they give themselves, and that's something we love so much about you.

When you give a girl a dad, you give her a shoulder to cry on.

When you fell down and cut yourself, your mom looked at you and told you to suck it up. But your dad, on the other hand, got down on the ground with you, and he let you cry. Then later on, when you made a mistake, or broke up with a boy, or just got sad, he was there to dry your tears and tell you everything was going to be okay, especially when you thought the world was crashing down. He will always be there to tell you everything is going to be okay, even when they don't know if everything is going to be okay. That's his job.

When you give a girl a dad, you give her a lifelong best friend.

My dad was my first best friend, and he will be my last. He's stood by me when times got tough, he carried me when I just couldn't do it anymore, and he yelled at me when I deserved it; but the one thing he has never done was give up on me. He will always be the first person I tell good news to, and the last person I ever want to disappoint. He's everything I could ever want in a best friend and more.

Dads are something out of a fairytale. They are your prince charming, your knight in shinny amour, and your fairy godfather. Dads are the reasons we are the people we are today; something that a million "thank you"' will never be enough for.

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12 Ways To Save Money During The Summer When All You Want Is To Spend It

Saving is important year round, but it's most important in the summer


Over the summer, everyone normally has more free time than during the year, and that means more time to spend more money. Saving money over the summer is important, not only so you can be prepared to pay for things in the future, but also so you can enjoy your summer and no be stressed about how much money you've spent. Saving money is something that should happen year round, but it's especially important to do in the summer.

1. Create a budget

Starting the summer off on the right foot is super important to stay on track throughout the rest of the summer. A budget is something that you should have year round, but it's important to adjust it for your summer plans.

2. And stick to it

Not only do you have to make a budget, but you have to stick to it. If you don't follow your budget, you're wasting time and money, and it's hard to keep on top of finances.

3. Take advantage of student discounts

During the summer, college students find themselves with a lot more free time than in the school year. When you're planning what to do with your extra time, make sure to look if the place offers student discounts or not. Why pay full price when you don't have to?

4. Don't always go out to eat

College students tend to spend time with their friends going out for food or for drinks, and that adds up fast. If you have friends over to cook dinner, it can be healthier and cheaper to do.

5. Sublet

If you have an apartment you're not going to be staying in, or need to stay in Columbus, it's beneficial both ways to sublet. Neither way do you have to pay full price on an apartment, and any discount, no matter how small, saves you money

6. Take day trips

Obviously, no one wants to stay in one place the whole summer, but travel is super expensive. By going on day trips you get to see more of the state or city, but you don't have to pay for lodging overnight. It's a good way to get out without eating into your budget.

7. Walk around

Columbus has great parks and trails that not enough people think about using when they're planning what they want to do. If you walk around outside, you can spend as much time you want there and you don't have to pay anything.

8. Split costs with friend

Do both of you need a Hulu and a Netflix account? Why not share the costs and the passwords with each other, so that you both can save some extra cash in the future. This doesn't just have to be with streaming services, but it can apply to food and parking costs as well.

9. Don't impulsively buy big items

Maybe you've worked a ton recently to start saving for summer, or you have graduation money flowing in. You feel like it doesn't matter how much you spend, but it does. If you hold off on those purchases, and you save your money, you'll be in a better spot financially at the end of the summer.

10. Get a job

The obvious one. If you're doing an unpaid internship or your normal job isn't offering you many hours, then getting a second job where you can work to have a little more money can help you achieve your savings goal.

11. Don't be too hard on yourself

The hardest part of setting goals is when you don't achieve them. Even if you haven't saved exactly as much as you wanted, making even a small change can help your financial wellbeing and can be enough to make small changes in the future.

12. Don't force yourself to make big changes

Everyone's saving tips to Millennials are to stop getting coffee every single day from places like Starbucks. While cutting down on spending in these ways will greatly help you save money, it's not the only thing that will help. There's no reason to make yourself miserable in order to follow the rules of someone else for a small change financially.

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