I'm not the only dude who has sat in his truck and watched from the next car over as that poor dude sits in his car despondent, trapped and helpless in the driver’s seat, while he gets yelled at by his girlfriend. You know what I'm talking about. You sit there and almost feel the pain for him as you flashback to that time you drove a girl a bit crazy and that was you in the driver’s seat. You remember the desperation as you sat and tried to quickly look for the off button by saying things like:
"Chill bro"
Probably the worst one I have ever said. Or most guys all-time go to:
"Relax"
Realizing this defense mechanism did not work, you ponder how hard it'd be to crawl out the window but view the three lanes of traffic between you and the other side of the ride. You weight your options, and then suddenly realize that women were not made with an off switch. Her yells become shriller, and her hand gestures more exaggerated, possibly because she somehow senses that you have drifted off and are no longer listening to her. What is this beast that at one time someone might be tempted to label as a "dime piece"? You go on to think, I will never go through this again. I will find a way out. Long story short, arguments between men and woman do not seem to be something that will ever end.
You crack a beer and ask your buddy, “are they really all crazy or are we just really this clueless". The only reply you get back from him is the same cracking sound and a long silence filled by a big chug. Crawling out windows and chugging beers are two of the most highly utilized and state-of-the-art defense mechanisms known to males. After all these years, you wonder if there cannot maybe be a better answer.
Why do guys have to go through this? We are so likable! But maybe it's not that simple. Maybe we are simply not approaching it as best we could and or shying away from asking the right questions because they might require a little work. I have always heard the things that girls hate but had never directly heard what they want. I figured why not take the incentive and ask. It sounded like an interesting social experiment so I went with it.
"What do girls expect from a guy?"
Could that be it? I don't know...sounds like it might implicate a lot of responsibility on a guy’s part and the girl’s. Well, I thought that might be the start of something so I went with It.
More or less highly scientific results
I asked some of my best friends that are girls and sought a more unbiased source of data and sought out some lovely TFM chicks, and asked this realistic question: “What do you look for in a guy?”
The answers were all highly similar, at the same time wholly different, but overall surprisingly simple:
1. Self-Confidence
Women first mentioned self-confidence as an attractive characteristic that showed them a man was worth their time.
“Now what makes a man irresistible is how well he knows how to play the game? Enough to make me stay but also keep a distance which in the end keeps me intrigued. When a guy stands out from the others…knowing how attractive he is.”- Natalie Noisom (Florida International University)
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2. Humor
When it came to actually sticking around because they were enjoying the conversation, girls sought humor more than almost any other quality.
“Funny guys are the best. The ones that don’t take things too seriously unless it deserves to be taken seriously. A guy that is not dramatic.”- Alex Klump (Miami)
“I really like people who make me laugh and just don’t care what people think of them. They are just undeniably who they are and feel no need to fit the norms. It’s an incredibly attractive characteristic.”-Maddie Henderson (Florida Southern College)
3. Ambition
Girls also spoke highly of a man with an ability to go after what he wants. Whether it be in his personal or work life, every girl mentioned their attraction to guys who had a passion and went after it.
“I love a guy with a lot of drive in life…” –Niki Noblett (Texas A&M)
4. Dependability/Consistency
When it came to actually get to know a guy, girls found it much easier and enjoyable to be around a man that kept them guessing about what was next but was readily predictable when it came to what they said they were going to do.
”if someone consistently shows you they care and that their personality is compatible with yours all the time, then it’s a lot easier to trust them and not over-think anything.”-Caitlyn Fisler (Hawaii)
5. Acceptance
Past understanding a guy and having good conversations, girls noted how they wanted to be accepted…whether they were understood or not, they wanted someone to take their side and have faith in them.
“Acceptance is really attractive, I am who I am no matter what and if he’s accepting me, that just makes it so much better.”-Abbi Randall (Florida Southern College)
Most importantly,
6. Honesty
Combining all of these characteristics and attributes together creates an environment of trust and honesty…something most girls noted that they not only craved, but were unwilling to sacrifice when it came down to dealing with a guy.
“It takes a long time for me to trust someone enough to really open up to them. Once I learn more about a guy and he begins to open up to me, which makes me feel like I can trust him. Trust should be mutual.” Haley� Lisenba (right) (University of Alabama-Birmingham)
All of these qualities put together makes what girls describe as the perfect dude, but why?
“At the end of the day, I just want someone that can be my best friend!”-Bekah Rex (East Carolina University)
“It’s not all about the outside.”-Natalie Noisom
“I’m always joking around and I want someone who can do that with me. It makes life more fun.”-Haley Lisenba
Like most people, women want consideration from dudes just like your guy friends expect it too. At the end of the day, women are not as hard to understand as they might seem.
