Finding friends that mesh completely and gracefully into your life is probably just as difficult as finding that person you can spend the rest of your life with. You can have thousands of friends, but you won't always have friends that feed your soul and stick with you through anything and everything.
Those friends are sometimes few and far between. Who know, maybe they don't always exist for everyone. But what happens when you do find these people and then all of a sudden they're gone? You built up a routine and you formed these deep bonds connected through love and for what ever reason, you have to say goodbye to them.
You go through the classic five stages of grief:
"They'll be back." or "It won't be a big deal when they leave." Denial.
"How could they just leave me?!" or "Why did the universe do this to us?" Anger.
"God, if you bring my friend(s) and I back together, I promise I'll read the Bible everyday!" or "I will pay you to come back and live near me again." Bargaining.
"I don't know how to live without them. I can't do this," or "I'm never going to have friends ever again. I'm all alone in the world." Depression.
"This is just the way life works. This isn't the end of the world and it doesn't have to be the end of our friendship." Acceptance.
When it comes to friends, an additional step can be added to the process: Replacement. You found such amazing friends before, there has to be more out there, right? So you look and you hang out with new friends more often in the hopes that there's going to be the same spark, love, and almost unhealthy codependency that you had before. It might work, but more often than not, it doesn't.
You can't replace the people that you have lost or don't see as often. There will never be anyone quite like them and there will never be anyone that can fill their spot in your heart. And that's a good thing.
Why do we feel the need to replace someone when they already left their mark on our souls?
Instead of trying to find someone to fit their mold, we should let life do what it always does and find us a new friend that will love us differently, but just as fully.
It's okay to feel these losses deeply. It's okay to go through all five/maybe six stages. It's even okay to call your friends in tears because you miss them so much.
But don't replace them. Remember all the great things you did together and plan to meet up soon. Don't close yourself off to new and exciting friendships because you're scared that you'll lose them, too. It's almost worth it, isn't it?