So many people today feel the need to comment on other peoples lives and what they do/say/wear/who they love, etc. We are all guilty of this, but the real question is why do we do it. This summer I have been spending a lot of time bettering myself and this is one of the things I've been trying to stop doing. I've been on the opposite end of it, and it just seems so dumb when you really think about it.
Every person is different and not everyone has to agree with what you do/don't like, but they do need to be respectful of it. What would this world be like if we all focused on what makes us happy instead of hating on what makes other people happy?
This happens every single day in so many different aspects of life from what you wear, who you hang out with, who you choose to love, what music you listen to, your drinking or smoking habits, the college you go to. People judge you every single day and take time out of their day to make rude comments about whatever it is. This is the part that I don't understand: why would you take time out of your day to tweet/text/or say something rude or nasty about another person? What do you gain out of that? Why does it matter to you if someone wants to dye their hair purple, love someone of the same sex, live in a certain town, go to a certain college, or work for a certain company. What other people do in their lives shouldn't bother you in your life.
I used to listen to others people's opinions way too much; people saying I "try too hard" or criticizing what I do or wear. Eventually, I just decided that if I want to do my hair and makeup every day and wear heels and that makes me happy then I don't really care what other people think because in the end I'm doing what makes me happy. I can feel perfectly happy and confident in flat shoes and ripped up blue jeans but I just like wearing heels better and anyone who feels the need to make rude comments about what I do in my life needs to ask themselves why it is that what I do bothers them so much. If the guy from down the street decides that he loves another guy and that is what makes him happy, then it shouldn't matter to you. Let everyone be happy in their own lives and don't worry about what they are doing. Whatever it is that makes you happy, confident, and that makes you feel good about yourself--that is what you should do! You should do it regardless of what other people might think, because in the end what really matters is your happiness.
If you want to go out and marry someone of the same sex then do it, if you want to wear flannels every day for the rest of your life then go for it, if you want to live the rest of your life eating nothing but Chipotle then that is your decision, if you want to go to the bars every week that is up to you! In the end, what you do should make you happy, don't worry about pleasing other people! As long as whatever makes you happy isn't harmful to others or yourself, then it really shouldn't matter.
We may not agree with everyone's decisions, but everyone doesn't agree with our decisions either. If you have decided that you want to be vegan or that you don't want to drink alcohol and that it's a healthier lifestyle then that is your decision; however, it doesn't benefit you to criticize anyone who doesn't also live that lifestyle. Do what makes you happy, but don't criticize those who don't share your values or ideas. Every person is different, so therefore not everyone is going to agree on what makes them happy. But everyone is entitled to the pursuit of their own happiness.
People are always going to make negative comments no matter what you do, so just do what makes you happy! People who are so negative in that way and feel the need to make rude comments about others all the time have their own problems, so don't let their negativity bother you. Focus on doing what makes you happy and ignore the negative opinions of others and you will find yourself being a much more positive person and will also make less negative comments yourself.
