My last and only romantic relationship ended about two years ago, and I have been single ever since. Sure, I miss being in a relationship greatly. You have someone who is always there when you need them, and understands you on a level that even your closest friends might not get. Yes, I’ve looked around for a new relationship, but haven’t found anything. But that’s OK. It just means I haven’t found the right girl yet. And there’s really no more I can do than just wait longer. So I’m single, but I’ve come to learn that being single isn’t the worst thing in the world, and in some ways, it suits me.
Being single has given me a chance to think about who I am as a person and how I can improve myself before I start a new relationship. In my last relationship, I made plenty of mistakes, and there are things I would definitely have done differently when I look back on them now. That being said, I was in high school, and I’d like to think I’ve matured at least a little since then. I've had plenty of time to pursue activities that are important to me, and it’s allowed me to realize that being in a relationship isn’t the most important thing and the only thing that I should be focussed on. Right now, I have some of the best friends I could ever ask for, and they have all been there for me in whatever situation I find myself in. I love my school and classes, I love all of the musical opportunities I’ve been given, and I am so excited that I will be conducting mathematical research over the summer on campus.
Being single has also given me time to grow as a person. I’ve learned for the most part how to take care of myself and to keep myself healthy. I’ve managed without a significant other so far, so I know that I can be self-sufficient to some degree. Learning to be self-sufficient, in my opinion, is very important, and college is a good time and place to learn how to do it. So I’ve made the most of that, but I know I still have a lot more to learn. Learning how to be independent will allow me to have a more mature relationship when I begin my next one. My good friend and roommate once told me that a relationship is like two hands pressed together, and not two hands interlocked together. That was some of the best advice I could have been given. I understand that he meant a relationship is two people, each with their own separate lives and endeavors, but that they are each able to support each other when necessary.
While I may not like it at times, being a single pringle has helped me learn about who I am as a person, and has made me more comfortable about who I am socially. I’ve learned from my mistakes and I’ve learned what I want in my next relationship. I guess being single isn’t so bad after all, and when I find the right girl, I’ll know she’s the right one, and I’ll be ready to embark on a relationship again. The wait will be entirely worth it.
