Coming into college I was expecting wild nights out with my roommates, we would be each others wing women and help each other pick outfits for guys we met on Tinder. But that did not happen. All three of my roommates (and our fish) came to college in serious relationships. Instead my weekends are spent all alone or third wheeling. This has caused me to fend for myself.

I knew my fate after I walked in on my roommate and her boyfriend having sex within the first week. And of course it was while I was Facetiming my mom so I had no idea and I sat in my bed for the rest of the time, completely oblivious. I also have learned the importance of texting before just walking in.

But there are other ways I notice my singleness. The biggest and most obvious is my weekends spent alone. Many weekends my roommates go home to see their significant others or I sit in the living room all alone while they spend time together. On the weekends they are here with them, I spend much time third wheeling. From backseating fast food dates to watching Wii game competitions it is obvious I am alone. I also notice it as I put a full face of make up everyday to hopefully find my guy that I can make my roomies third wheel with.

There is nothing more sad though than the fact that even our goldfish are dating. We recently found out that one of our fish may be pregnant as well. So even the fish are getting it on. The fish have a better love life than me!

But there are perks of being the only single roommate. One perk is the fact I can go out every weekend and meet new guys and if I am feeling wild and crazy I can even kiss them. I also get to go on super awkward first dates from guys on Tinder. Yes y’all people on Tinder are as desperate as you think they are. What more could you want in life!? The biggest perk of all though is I get all my food to myself- I never have to share. So yes I may miss late cuddles sesh’s and romantic rose petal trails on the floor at least I have my food.

My roomies are definitely here to help though with my singleness. From stare downs with my ex (and helping me send witty snaps to him) to creating me a Tinder profile. They are here to help whenever I need them! They have showed me uncircumcised penis’s and have broken me out of my Asian comfort zone. What more could you want in roommates!? They also are always down to listen to my single person rants (which do come quite often) which is always nice.

All in all being the only single roommate is not the worst thing ever. I can complain all I want but truth be told at the end of the day my roomies are all dating great people. The people they are dating are becoming a part of my freshman experience and they teach me so much about my roommates. Most of all of though they are teaching me that one day when I do get into a committed relationship what I want in a guy. I want to have someone I can laugh with, make fun of and feel so comfortable with that I can do/ say whatever I want.