"Old enough to make the right decisions, young enough to make the wrong ones."
What is it like being in your twenties? Some people my age are getting married, having kids, going to college or traveling. I always hear "I am going to be alone forever" but we are only 20... why are we trying to settle down? I can't even legally enjoy a bottle of wine let alone find someone who I am supposed to spend the rest of my life with. My mom recently asked me, "Well why don't you want a boyfriend?" and I said well I still have to meet a lot of people and do a lot of things. I don't even know what I would be looking for even if I found it.
To those who have found that special someone, you are lucky. You are young and you have found your soulmate. If I coincidentally met mine at this age, I wouldn't be mad, but I am not going to go out searching for him. I can't find socks half the time so I really don't have time to go out looking for someone. Being 20 does not mean we all have the same milestone waiting for us. I want to be able to see myself in five years doing great things, but I need to envision that first before I see that with someone else. Some of my friends have kids, and they absolutely love it. For me, I get lost in Target so I can't even be responsible for another human being. I know I am far from that milestone, but that's okay. It is so confusing already, but also looking at everyone around you and wondering if you are doing something wrong. You're not. I am going to spend my twenties soul searching and grounding myself with who I am. I want to be selfish and self-empowered. I don't want to share this decade with anyone (maybe not the whole decade alone).
Don't settle. Set high standards because you deserve it and you can find it. Wait until you find Mr. Right not Mr. Alright. We literally are so young, and when you want to find the one we have things like Tinder (don't take that seriously) to find the one. Enjoy life. Do crazy things. Meet a bunch of people. Don't just go with the first person you meet because he's "nice" and your friends are hitting relationship milestones. We are so eager to get caught up in a fantasy and forget what we deserve. Don't think you have to find the one or settle down because everyone is doing that. It is okay to find the one and have kids, but it is also okay not too. Being in your twenties is confusing, but it is fun and is the greatest time of your life. Do what is best for you, not just because everyone else is doing it.