When your friends start having children, its always an internally awkward circumstance. Specially, if you're not one of them. People are on different wave lengths in life, and that's totally okay. It's what makes us all different anyway. Your life will forever be changed when your friends start poppin' out babies. So, I'm going to prepare you on what you're going to experience, if you haven't already.
1. Conversations will change drastically
They will go from "Guess what this guy just said?" to "Hold on, I have to go change a diaper." OR "Does anyone want to go out tonight?" and the answer is "My child gets up at 6 am, are you going to wake up with them?"
Your conversations will change so much. But, if they're your best friends; it honestly won't matter. Because, talking to your best friend at any given time should be cherished. It wont always happen with the babies coming.
2. There's going to be things you can't relate to & you have to suck it up and deal
There will be a lot you can't relate to such things as...'going out'. Yes, you may want to go out, you may also want them to go out. But, they won't. They will try to explain all the reasons they shouldn't. "What if the baby wakes up when I'm gone" "The baby wakes up so early, I don't want to take care of them hungover, its the worst"
You could tell them advice until you're blue in the face of the 'Well if it was me' situation. Ya know what? It's not you. So, shut up & deal.
3. You're going to learn a lot of things, terrifying things.
Those mindless articles that we pass up on our Facebook timeline...you can't avoid them any longer. Because, your best friends will tell you everything they say. All the gory details about birth and after birth...you'll hear them. From lactating in public; to bleeding 6 weeks postpartum. All the details...well, you get it. My advice...take it as a learning experience. Because, eventually if you ever want kids in your lifetime; you're gonna need to know these things.
4. You're going to have to help.
Regardless if you think you're never going to have to change a diaper until its your kids...I am here to tell you you're wrong. You're going to have to help, and that should honestly be okay. They need it; first, second, or third kid. They're gonna need help. You may have to help hold them down while they change the diaper because they are wiggle worms. Or, if they decide to take off their diaper and pee on the floor...well, you have to pick either putting a new diaper on, or ya know...cleaning it up. Sometimes, you'll even have to watch the kid while your friend takes the first shower in 4 days.
Advice, HELP. If you have ever helped them by holding their hair back while they vomit..things change & you can help them with their baby.
Lastly,
5. You're going to experience loving something so small, in such a big way.
No matter how the conversations change. No matter how you have to suck it up and deal with the fact you may never dance on a bar with your best friend again. No matter the terrifying stories you're going to hear; NONE of that will matter once you start watching your niece of nephew grow up. You're going to cuddle all day long, and wait for their 'coo' or begging them to just open their eyes, just so you can see how beautiful they are. Then, before you know it, you're going to be saying your name hoping they repeat it. When they do, tears. Tears everywhere.
People change, people come and go. But, you know the ones that are going to stay forever. When the ones that are going to stay forever start bringing little people into the world...it doesn't suck. Don't ever let anyone tell you that when your friends start having children it sucks. Because, being an aunt is the coolest freaking thing.
