Why can’t women empower one another? It seems as if everywhere you turn some controversial subject or topic is being expressed, whether it’s being a feminist or a supporter of a certain political party. Yet, when it comes down the actions taken about these sides, words are clearly speaking louder.

I say this especially in the name of feminism- whatever that topic may mean to you. What I see is how little women empower women today. As if were all still in middle school slut shaming one another for an outfit some girl decided to wear. Even though most of us are long out of middle school/junior high the women on women cattiness is still present.

As Tina Fey said in the movie Mean Girls, “you all have got to stop calling each other sluts and whores.”

Being a woman is already hard enough, no matter what a woman does whether it’s with her mind or body, some sort of rebuttal comes with it. And sadly most of the time it’s by other women. Why can’t women band together? Talk to one another, build each other up, instead of talking down on each other. You like the way a women’s makeup is done? Tell her. You like an article of clothing she is wearing? Tell her. As women we need to band together and empower one another, you may even find a friend out of it.

I’m not saying were all perfect, and jealously can easily get the best of some of us. But instead of talking down, why not pay a compliment? I specifically remember this one time I came across a beautiful young woman on Twitter, and I ended up sending her a message on how much I liked her eyes. We instantly hit it off, and this girl became my best friend still to this day.

It’s crazy what a small act of kindness or smile can do to someone. Especially for self-esteem. I know that every time I’m complimented on something by another woman it builds up my self-esteem just a little bit more. There’s beauty in empowerment, and a love that is exchanged when women start to band together instead of bicker or complain.

So the next time you start to think about “bagging” on someone because of the way they look, or what they are wearing. Take the time to pay a compliment or even a smile. Life is too short for us women to turn against one another because of how we look or what we wear. Yes, girl code exists but hey let’s not downgrade each other because someone decided to talk to someone who you disliked in the 5^th grade.

Forgive and move on, build one another up instead of putting each other down. And if you need a little reminder Mean Girls can execute the message perfectly. Make girl world at ease again.