Similar to an actual pregnancy, the weeks leading up to the homecoming of your little are very nerve-wracking. Weight gain, swollen ankles, and erratic emotions are all valid side effects.
It’s hard to begin to explain the feeling when those New Members walk into your doors on Bid Day. Simply put, the world just seems a whole lot better. If at that point you haven’t already found a girl you clicked with, you can rely on the fact that your little is SOMEWHERE in the room. The whole semester you anticipate your girls coming home and then they’re finally there!
Here are some questions you may ask (some of this is applicable for Big-seekers as well):
What do i do if I haven't found a girl a click with?
Don’t panic! Like I mentioned earlier, your perfect match is already in the same room as you. All you have to do is be patient (and go on a crap load of "lady dates").
What do I do if I have found a girl I click with, but I have slight (major) jealousy issues?
If you’re like me, you tend to get a bit territorial. Have no fear; “whatever happens, happens” is a phrase I use often, and by repeating it, the situation seems less dramatic. It’s not some classier “YOLO” ploy, but it actually helps while paired with a few deeps breaths… and a couple glasses of wine. (Wine makes it classier, right?).
What is proper "DTR" etiquette?
After you’ve been on a few rush dates and you’ve finally found a Little that seems “totes perf,” you’re feeling confident enough to “define the relationship.” Keep in mind that she is an adult as well. Though they may feel like our children, we need to stop babying these women because that’s what they are; grown women. I’m not saying to put Activia and Crossword puzzles in her baskets, but please, for the love of queso, can we remember to treat them like adults and not property?
How do I casually introduce her to the idea of being in my family without coming off like a total creep?
Let her into a couple inside jokes that you share with your family! Tell her some crazy stories like how you went with your Big to get “Big/Little” lip tattoos (YEP), or the time you name-dropped your G-Big in an application so you could start writing for The Odyssey (shoutout to Elly Spencer), or all the times that your family was there for you when boys toyed with your heart. Explain how you could see yourself sharing memories like those with her, but that you would completely understand if she wanted to be with another family because we are all still in the same sorority.
And finally: How do hold back the tears during BIG/Little reveal?
It's inevitable. But hey, whatever happens, happens.
If you're lucky, you might just end up with a family as cool as mine.
