I hear it everyday; "Guys are dumb," "They're so clueless," "They're all the same." I could never understand why a very large population of women always compare the opposite gender to a potential "bad bunch" that they've met. First, it bothers me to compare anyone to anyone because no one is similar enough. Two, it's very simple, we're not all the same. Listen, I get it, the saying is typically used out of frustration and doesn't necessarily mean they believe what they're saying. However, there truly are some women out there that actually believe in the bold statement. Here's the problem with the whole theory: one bad guy, doesn't make all guys bad.
It's easy to point the blame at someone because you're mad, but why can't some women seem to look at it in a different angle? Why am I with or interested in him? Maybe the real problem is that you're interested in a bad guy after all. The further issue is, why are you or better yet, how could you be interested in a bad guy? Is it possible that deep within your subconscious you believe that you don't deserve any better, or that, "This is the best I can get" ? Deep insecurities manifest themselves in many different ways and for everyone it's different, but for the ones who choose to be with bad guys, is it possible that you have something to do with it? I can imagine that if you somehow fall into a pattern of being with bad guys it can be annoying, however, it's not our fault. I want to make myself very clear, guys can be annoying without a doubt. Having a full blown conversation and us not even really listening because we're thinking about something else, has to be frustrating. Us forgetting important dates and days coming up. All of our little idiosyncrasies without a doubt can get old really fast, but's that's our nature. From what I've observed, most men don't compare women truly to one bad one that they've dealt with. It's much more typical of us to jokingly compare women to stereotypes, rather than the comparison of a woman's actual character.
Not every guy just wants to hop into bed with you. Most of us actually enjoy learning more about you. We have fun just being in your presence even if it's only for a short while. We love talking to you in the morning and through the night. We respect you and your individual talents that make you, you. Most of us just want to call you our own, and even more of us are blocked from that because you chose to be with the bad apples, even though the signs are right in your face. But then just as quick as you think you're happy, "Guys are dumb."
In no way do I believe that all women think this way, however, it is said, and I hear it very often. Give the nice guys a chance, and once a while, cut us some slack! We're far from perfect, and we mess up, but it doesn't mean we don't care. Unless we keep doing the same thing over and over again, then I'd have to agree and say he's not a good guy. We're out here trust me, just waiting for a chance to treat you special.
