Every single one of us has felt loves sharp sting. From a second grade crush to a three year relationship when you're in college. We have all experienced the disappointment, regret, and sadness that comes in the aftermath of a failed relationship. Even if you've never been in a relationship, I'm almost positive that we have all felt heartbreak in someway. Heartbreak comes in many different forms and sizes, from a breakup or betrayal to simply watching a movie that leaves your heart aching from how captivating and relatable it was. Some of us have our own method of healing, while there are others are caught up in the past, still replaying images of their estranged lover in their heads. Well, if you're that person, then you're in luck because I'm here to help you out.
When trying to get over a heartbreak, a really good place to start is learning how to love yourself again. When you are in a relationship, you are loving another person, along with yourself. More often than not, we put that significant other before ourselves without even realizing that we are. It's a natural thing and we all do it, but once the relationship ends, who are you worrying about then? Sulking over a broken relationship will only hurt you more and bring more negativity onto you. Instead, go on a hike and enjoy the beauty of nature. Even if you don't have any hiking trails around you, simply sitting outside in your sun-lit yard in the grass. Bring a notebook and pencil with you to express your emotions about your situation. Or perhaps your summer reading book that you've been meaning to read all summer but just haven't found the time. Sometimes popping in a Harry Potter movie and eating your favorite comfort foods is the best way to go if you're not the outdoorsy type. Either way, a big part is still loving yourself and knowing how to be alone and enjoy being alone. Once you learn and love this step, it'll be a breeze to start re-surrounding yourself with your friends again.
Surrounding yourself with friends who support you is a very healthy step. While yes your alone time is good, sometimes too much is bad and could result in depression and social anxiety. Surround yourself with friends who will listen to you rant and watch endless hours of Netflix with you. But sometimes, mending things with people you used to not like is also an excellent way too go. Personally, I've been doing that and it honestly feels so good to get all of your issues in the past. The ending of a relationship can be the start of many good and positive ones. If you have the right friends, they will always be there for you, so don't be afraid to reach out to them for advice and comfort.
Lastly, the most important thing to do is to stay positive. Positivity is the most essential thing in life, simply because there is so much negativity going on in the world and we do not need to add to it. As long as you are positive, nothing bad can truly happen to you. In every single situation, try and find a positive outlook. If what you are going through is a breakup, then look at it as an opportunity to become a better person and exercise your independence as a person without something holding you down. If its an argument with a friend/family member, view it as a way to make your relationship stronger and better. Obviously this isn't the only way to view these things in a positive manor. Just always remember that leading a positive life is the way to go about, and that no matter what your situation is, it will always get better.
Every single day, we all struggle with problems and feelings. Although we all have those days where all we want to do is curl up in bed and disconnect ourselves from all humanity, but luckily this is only one out of the 364 other days that we have. Trust me, we've all been there. You can get past anything just as long as you stay positive, surround yourself with great friends, and love yourself.
