To the girl who gets to wear the wedding dress,

First and foremost, congratulations on your big day! This is a very exciting time and I wish you both the best. I just wanted to introduce myself as the person in the other pair of shoes in this scenario, the prom shoes, that is. As someone who is 21 and a senior about to graduate college, I honestly cannot remember half of high school or even have time to worry about it, either.

However, I had the fondest experiences from my junior year to the very first semester of college. Fond memories that I will cherish forever, but not necessarily want back. This specific time was when I dated my first love.

Yes, I went to his basketball games, hung out every single day after school, went to both my proms with him, and even experienced college for the first time. But, he and I were so different back then.

When we split, we went our separate directions and honestly have not seen each other but once since then, almost 2 years ago. The only way we see each other is on social media and we both know we moved on to people who fit us better. To me, there is no such thing as a trading up or trading down. I believe you just find someone who fits you for who you are and better than the last did. And that is okay.

So first thing is first, I hope his new girlfriend doesn't resent me for having him in high school like you do. I say this because I am nothing but happy he found someone that compliments him as a person the way I couldn't. We were toxic, great friends, but no good as a couple. However, I taught him what he doesn't want and what he does and that is how he found her.

I was in his path that led to his most current relationship he is in, just like he was in mine when I found my significant other. I found someone who loves me in more ways than I thought ever existed and I hope my ex has positive thoughts about us just the same.

Secondly, please don't be jealous. He and I were still children. I don't even recognize who I was when I was with him. I grew so much since then and I am sure he did too. You may be wearing the wedding dress with the fully developed man he is today, but I went to prom with the lost teenager that didn't know what he was wearing to school the next day.

There is no equivalence to our relationship because they were such different times in our lives. So please, don't be jealous of our adolescent relationship, it was a deep love but not a permanent one.

Lastly, I'm in college. I don't sit around upset that the past is gone. Partly because I am not going to sit and think about how my life was, but mainly because it ended for a reason and that is enough for me to be able to move on.

We were no good for each other. We were great for each other in that period of time, but now he is perfect for his current and probably forever person.

Our breakup wasn't because I couldn't cherish or love him right, it was because we started to realize that we cared for each other enough to walk away. I cherished him in every way possible and hung the moon for him every night before bed.

We, as a couple, just had different plans for ourselves, wanted different lifestyles, and wanted a break. I smile at my past but smile even harder at my future because that is the stuff that I can change.