There is always one girl you will have an issue with. How will you deal with her?
Everyone knows someone who may not be the kindest in the world. It’s hard to figure out how to be around this person. Perhaps she betrayed your trust or borrowed your favorite pair of pumps without returning them. As true ladies and gentlemen, we must figure out how to get around our feelings of ill will and not have a Gretchen Wieners breakdown.
The movie Mean Girls emphasizes just how mean girls can be to each other. Gretchen Wieners' breakdown is an important part of the movie. She goes from playing it cool to yelling, "We should totally just stab Caesar," in the middle of class. This breakdown starts all these splits and factions within her group.
Don't allow your emotions to go unchecked when around the one person you can't stand. Here are six tips to help ease the strain between you and your Caesar.
1. Confront your fears. When there is bad blood, always
try to be as direct as possible and confront her. This does not mean you need
to argue or be mean. Structure your argument. For example, if a girl took
your favorite pair of jeans you may want to write down when and why she borrowed them. This will jog her memory, and perhaps lead to you getting them
back.
2. Have a bright sunshiny day. Whether she just calls you out, lets the curse words
flow, or if she has been sneaking passive aggressive comments into your
conversation, don’t react. Let the
nastiness roll off your back and don’t carry it with you throughout your day.
3. Snapping should only happen on snapchat. No, I don’t mean have a confrontation online (you should always do this in person; see #1). Don’t snap, or inject passive aggressive comments to counter hers.
Positivity will always win a war.
4. Keep your friends close and your enemies closer. Being closer to your enemy would allow
you to keep tabs on them. Don’t be fake about this. Find common ground and get
to know each other over your love of getting straight A’s, glitter, or running.
5. Take the road less traveled. If this person has stepped on your very last nerve get
away from her for a little while. Distance always makes things better. Think
about all the fights you may have had with your friends and how a break can
melt away any argument.
6. Give her
the benefit of the doubt. Try taking her out for lunch and truly
getting to know her. You may find that she have a reason for being mean. This
does not excuse any bad behavior, but it may bring you peace of mind. If she tells you about something going on in her life, it may make her feel better, as well.
If these fail, just remember not to
let angry words come popping out of your mouth. Meltdowns can give a mean
spirited person more ammunition. Talk to someone you trust about the situation.
Above all, stay positive and remember that college is a very short four year
period of your life, and you should not spend it worrying about the
haters.
