We Can't Expect People To Be Available To Us 24/7
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We Can't Expect People To Be Available To Us 24/7

I can't make it to the phone and I'm not sorry and I don't hate you.

We Can't Expect People To Be Available To Us 24/7
Rhea Rao

Societal culture has really made us ridiculously codependent and anxious about everything.

I can even admit that I fall victim to this twisted ideology. We live in a culture in which we expect people to be constantly on their devices and reply immediately. If they fail to do so this then means they don’t care. This is unattainable, unrealistic, and obsessed over. It’s simply unrealistic to have the ones in your life available to you 24/7. Everyone has their own life, their own goals, and their own activities. They can’t just put those on hold to provide some sort of closure and reassurance of care to others.

We’ve grown heavily reliant on technology, which is fantastic because we truly are progressing as a society.

However, that doesn’t mean we are on our devices all hours of the day and we shouldn’t be. You shouldn’t be so concerned about that little screen in the palm of your hands so much that it dictates how you feel about others and how you live your life. We place all too much value on the response times of others, whether read receipts expose someone, and what people are caught doing on social media.

Maybe someone posts a picture and ignores your text, but why do we feel the need for this to have five hundred deeper meanings? Maybe they didn’t feel like texting and maybe they’re busy. We feel the need to just jump to conclusions and have every little thing mean something. It stresses us out, makes us angry, and strains our relationships.

We put so much pressure on the people in our lives to live up to some fantasy that is based unrealistic expectation that they are constantly there for us at our beck and call whenever we may need them. Realistically speaking, there isn’t anyone who can truly do that.

Most people understand that the world doesn’t revolve around them, but deep down we all have a desire and hope that it does. We hope that people will treat us accordingly and it’s messed up.

We shouldn't be so worried about what it means when we are left on "read" or someone doesn't answer after two rings. We put so much value on such menial things that we lose sight of actual genuine things in life. We instead tend to focus on things that shouldn't be of value in our lives.

I think it’s time we collectively as a society take a moment and recognize we have a problem. This isn’t something that can change overnight. but just consider how much value and pressure you put on others and your technological communications because maybe there should be a change.

So, yes I can’t come to the phone right away. I was taking a nap.

Or I was writing an article last minute. Or I was reading a book because I haven’t really gotten around to doing that. Sorry that I’ve been dying to start my book on writings from our founding fathers. And you know what? That’s okay because I can’t be available and I can’t expect that of you.

So, pick up a book or start a tv series, but just chill. This culture is overplayed and unattainable and we need to let it go. So yes, the phone may ring two or three times or you may even be put to voicemail (despite my voicemail box not being set up), but that doesn't mean I hate you. It just means I am doing things with my life and I'll get back to you when I can.

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