The Many Stages of Waiting to Be 21

The Many Stages Leading Up To Your 21st Birthday

All birthdays before this one just seem so much less important.


Maybe you're not a college student and maybe you're old enough that when you were in college the drinking age was 18 and this was never an issue. For the rest of us though, currently enduring frat parties and the anxiety of that comes with needing a fake ID to get into a bar, the agony of waiting to for your 21st birthday is something to which we all can relate.

1. You drag yourself to frat parties and pretend they'll be just as fun as the bar.

Making sure your name is on the list prior to being allowed in to a sweaty, decrepit frat house definitely gets old, along with having to endure the taste of stale beer and Franzia. Going to the bathroom alone, with the lack of toilet paper and the realization it has likely never been cleaned comes with its own issues making the agony of not being able to go to the bar instead that much worse.

2. Your stuck watching your older friends celebrate theirs long before you.


Sure, you're excited for them and it's an excuse for you all to celebrate, but you secretly wish it was you. The days of stressing about plans, hoping they would get in, and trying to find other plans if they couldn't are over for them while you're stuck behind wondering how you'll survive the wait.

3. You shop for the perfect outfit for the big night months in advance


While you know it's only one night and you likely won't care what you're wearing once you're out, you obsess over how you'll look the first time you walk in a bar and order your first legal drink. Hours and hours are spent shopping for the perfect outfit. Minor panic ensues over whether you'll be warm enough for the walk there, cool enough for the crowded bar or if you'll suddenly hate what you picked out when it's finally time to wear it.

4. The days seem to be going by slower than usual.


Whenever anyone mentions your birthday is coming up, you can't help but let them know exactly know how many days until it arrives, right down to the hour. It's not like your counting or anything.

5. You stress about how to get the perfect Instagram on the day.


So many thoughts run through your head despite knowing your followers will likely barely glance at your photo as they scroll through their feed: Do I buy those jumbo letter balloons I've seen nearly every other girl pose beside? Can I manage to get a picture of the exact moment I pop the champagne? Is it completely unoriginal to use "twenty fun" in my caption?

6. The day finally arrives.


The wait is over. Wow, that was fast. It suddenly seems ridiculous that you spent so much time obsessing about the time when you could finally order a drink without having to focus on not looking guilty. You secretly hope you'll get carded just so you can let them know that YES you are legal.

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20 Small Tattoos With Big Meanings

Tattoos with meaning you can't deny.

It's tough to find perfect tattoos with meaning.

You probably want something permanent on your body to mean something deeply, but how do you choose a tattoo that will still be significant in 5, 10, 15, or 50 years? Over time, tattoos have lost much of their stigma and many people consider them a form of art, but it's still possible to get a tattoo you regret.

So here are 20 tattoos you can't go wrong with. Each tattoo has its own unique meaning, but don't blame me if you still have to deal with questions that everyone with a tattoo is tired of hearing!

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1. A semicolon indicates a pause in a sentence but does not end. Sometimes it seems like you may have stopped, but you choose to continue on.

2. "A smooth sea never made a skilled sailor."

3. Top symbol: unclosed delta symbol which represents open to change. Bottom symbol: strategy.

4. "There are nights when the wolves are silent and only the moon howls."

5. Viking symbol meaning "create your own reality."

6. Greek symbol of Inguz: Where there's a will, there's a way.

7. Psalm 18:33 "He makes my feet like the feet of a deer; he causes me to stand on the heights."

8. 'Ohm' tattoo that represents 4 different states of consciousness and a world of illusion: waking (jagrat), dreaming (swapna), deep sleep (sushupti), transcendental state (turiya) and world of illusion (maya).

9. Alchemy: symbolizes copper, means love, balance, feminine beauty, and artistic creativity.

10. The Greek word “Meraki" means to do something with soul, passion, love, and creativity or to put yourself into whatever you do.

11. Malin (Skövde, Sweden) – you have to face setbacks to be able to go forward.

12. Symbol meaning "thief" from "The Hobbit." It was the rune Gandalf etched into Bilbo's door so the dwarves could find his house.

13. “Lux in tenebris" means “light in darkness."

14. Anchor Tattoo: symbolizing strength and stability, something (or someone) who holds you in place, and provides you the strength to hold on no matter how rough things get.

15."Ad Maiora" is translated literally as “Towards greater things." It is a formula of greeting used to wish more success in life, career or love.

16. A glyph means “explore." It was meant as a reminder for me to never stop exploring.

17. "Aut inveniam viam aut faciam," meaning roughly, "Either I shall find a way, or I will make one."

18. Lotus Flower. It grows in muddy water, and it is this environment that gives forth the flower's first and most literal meaning: rising and blooming above the murk to achieve enlightenment.

19. The zen (or ensō) circle to me represents enlightenment, the universe and the strength we all have inside of us.

20. Two meanings. The moon affirms life. It looks as if it is constantly changing. Can remind us of the inconsistency of life. It also symbolizes the continuous circular nature of time and even karma.

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My Simple Skin Care Routine That'll Keep Your Skin Clear All Summer Long

And hopefully glowing too, even if the glow is just sweat...


Hi. So I am very proud of my skin and the journey that I have gone through to get it looking the way it does. I don't do much to my face, much to many of my friends surprise and in fact, I've noticed the less I do to my face the better it looks. Here are the five products I use on my face to keep my skin clear and glowing.

1. Simple Cleansing Wipes

Sooooo, I don't actually wash my face. I know!!!!! Ok, ok, calm down. To cleanse my skin and get the dirt from the day off of my face I use the simple cleansing wipes. They work really well and you can actually see the dirt on the wipe which is my favorite part. I would've taken my own picture but I kind of ran out so I'm using baby wipes at the moment, which work just as well for me.

2. Milk Makeup Watermelon Brightening Serum

Nandi Smith

The next few things are a little pricey, but totally worth it. I use the Milk Makeup Watermelon Brightening Serum as a moisturizer and I really like it because you just put it directly on your face and you don't have to rub it in or anything. It makes your skin look very glowy as well.

3. Bliss Ex-Glow-Sion Eye Cream

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I am a college student which means I hardly get as much sleep as I would like. I use the Bliss Ex-Glow-SIon eye cream under my eyes to help brighten my dark circles, especially after nights where I barely slept or on the days that I have an 8:30 am class.

4. Supergoop Unseen Sunscreen

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I never used to use sunscreen, especially not daily. But I have hyperpigmentation and have found that sunscreen really helps keep my skin tone even and helps prevent dark spots, so now I'm a big fan.

5. Mario Badescu Facial Spray

Nandi Smith

I've tried the Mario Badescu Facial Spray with aloe and with rose, and I think so far the rose is my favorite. I love the way this spray feels and it's so good at revitalizing my skin during the day. It can also be used as a setting spray for the people out there that wear makeup.

Now, I don't always use all five products every day and sometimes I'm just super lazy and don't use any of them. I also only do the whole process only once a day, sometimes I wipe off my face twice depending on the day. But I haven't had a pimple in a very long time, so something must be working, right?

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