LADIES,
This one is for you. I know Valentine’s Day is approaching and you’re probably either scrambling to find someone for this lovely day or preparing to kill yourself before it approaches and hoping the day is over ASAP.
Either way, if you’re single or alone whether you admit it or not deep down you know you wish you had that Mr. Right by your side to treat you with flowers and chocolates.
It’s so easy to picture yourself with the perfect guy and try and write your happily ever after, but in reality your happily ever after is not going to be found chasing boys, but chasing God.
I didn’t realize this until I recently started reading a book called The Chase by Kyle and Kelsey Kupecky. It has perspectives from both the girl's and the guy's point of view. Which is what us girls really want to know right?? I mean I know I do.
This book opened my eyes in so many ways and made me realize that my focus in life shouldn’t be walking by every guy I pass thinking “OMG, what if he’s the one?!” While sometimes I’m not going to lie, I will meet a guy and be convinced he is for me. That is not the way we should be looking at it.
I have realized that God does put many guys in your life, some come and go and some are just meant to be friends, so never forget that you deserve the very best when it comes to guys. Always protect your heart and don’t always think that just because a cute guy sits in that empty seat right by you in class that it's fate and the two of you are meant to be.
Kelsey Kupecky says it best, "sometimes it’s better to be single rather than dating the wrong guy who doesn’t treat you like the great girl you are."
High school and college especially are the most popular times it seems that everyone is dating and has a boyfriend. These are the years that girls are ready to commit and by golly, if he got down on one knee tomorrow, you’d say yes. Don’t worry I’m guilty of this too. But don’t forget these are also the years that boys just want to be boys. Now, of course, I wouldn’t say every boy goes through this stage, but most of the time they all go through that point where a girlfriend seems nice just when it is most convenient for him.
And the reason I say that is so us girls realize that before we fall into the “trap” and make excuses for him and allowing him to treat us less than we deserve. Don’t force the relationship or date a guy just to have a boyfriend.
God tests our patience in many ways and waiting for Mr. Right is one of them. God’s plan for our life, spouse, children, job and so on is far better than our plan.
You just have to believe in Him and respect yourself enough to know that the right guy is out there somewhere and on his way! <3
"When the time is right, I, The Lord, will make it happen." (Isaiah 60:22)