OK, you caught me.
As much as I say that I don't believe in true love, I actually do. I believe that the stories we hear in fictional novels and the love that we see on TV can become true.
I also believe that you have to find the right person for that to happen. I suppose that's why I have never been in love: because I'm waiting.
If I am being completely honest, I couldn't tell you the last time that I have been in a relationship. People say it is because I am too pick. So often I get told: you have to try out people to see who could be the one, otherwise, you will never know. Wrong.
Why do we so often try out relationships that we know aren't right for us? That we know won't work? I think it is because we fear the wait. We fear the time being alone while everyone else seems to have found their soulmate. Maybe I have an odd perspective on this, but I feel that waiting just saves a lot of heartbreak.
Every time I am told that I need to be in a relationship, I can't help but wonder why I am supposed to feel this way?
I don't wait for love because I am too picky to accept anything less than it, I wait for love because I don't have a desire to date person after the person if I know they aren't right for me. I wait for love because I know that, if it is in God's plan, that guy that I see in movies and read about in stories will arrive. I mean maybe not in the same context, and maybe he will actually be nothing like these fictional men, but he will be my story and my movie.
I believe in love. I say I don't but I do, and that is why I wait.
Now, this doesn't mean that it isn't OK to test relationships. Some, actually most, people find that beneficial for them. This is just me saying that it is also OK if you don't.
What we choose to do when it comes to waiting for love or searching for love is completely OK. But there is such a stigma around waiting and I want it to be known that there shouldn't be. There shouldn't be a stigma around choosing to do what you feel is right or what makes you happy.
The point is, if people tell you that you are picky because you don't constantly date or that you need to lower your standards, they are wrong. You know what you are looking for, so never settle for anything less.
I haven't found love yet, and who knows if I ever will. What I do know is that if and when it does find me, it will be worth the wait.
