Wait For A Guy Who Pursues You Like A Real Man
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Wait For A Guy Who Pursues You Like A Real Man

Are you chasing a boy or being pursued by a man?

Wait For A Guy Who Pursues You Like A Real Man
Kinsey Mhire

He's charming, fully equipped with a mesmerizing smile and a laugh that makes you melt. He opens doors for you, and he's even taken you on a few dates. He sounds like a real Prince Charming, doesn't he? But, what about all of the confusing text messages or Snapchats that completely mislead you? What about all of the times that you've been left wondering if you did something wrong to have upset him or cause him to lose interest in you? What if you're the one who's more interested in hanging out than he is?

If you ask yourself these questions or have caught yourself feeling down because you don't know if he's interested in you or not, I can confirm that you deserve something better. It seems like dating these days has become so complicated and confusing that we don't recognize what true, genuine feelings for someone are anymore. Are we "talking" or are we a "thing?" Because apparently there's a difference now.

Stop chasing after a boy who won't give you the time of day, or who isn't putting in the effort to talk to you. The second that you begin to doubt that you are anything special is the second you need to stop talking to him. A boy will be charming and try to sweep you off of your feet, but he will not pursue you. He will not make you feel beautiful or special. He will not consider your feelings the way that they deserve to be addressed because he doesn't want to listen or simply doesn't know how to and therefore will not try to. He will not put in the effort to understand you.

A real man will pursue you everyday. A real man will motivate you to be the best you that you can be, and he will admire the little flaws that you can't stand about yourself. He won't say that he accepts those flaws and then use them against you when he's angry or frustrated with you like a boy would. A real man will lead you closer to your goals because he want's you to succeed, and he wants you to be happy. A real man will not play with your emotions like a toy, and he won't call you only when it's convenient for him. Life is busy, but if he truly cares about you he will make time for you, not just try to squeeze you into a certain time slot when he has nothing going on.

I am not insisting that you should not pursue a man, because a relationship is a two way street. You should not be the only one putting effort into a relationship or a thing or whatever it is that we call dating these days. Let me tell you right now that you don't deserve to be "talking" to someone. You do not deserve to submit yourself to being a "thing" with someone. No, no my darling. You deserve a love so pure that even the whitest rose could not compare to the purity of your feelings for one another. You deserve to have confidence that you are more than just a thing, or someone for him to hang out with when it's convenient for him. You deserve to be pursued by a real man.

So stop chasing him. Being alone can be hard sometimes, but liking someone who isn't interested or doesn't show his interest for you can be even more painful than any night spent wondering why you're single or haven't found the right guy yet. Time will take its course. And in that time while you wait for him, love yourself so fiercely that only a true man would be brave enough to pursue you.

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