Value Success More Than You Fear Of Failure

Value Success More Than You Fear Of Failure

As Winston Churchill once said, “Success is stumbling from failure to failure with no loss of enthusiasm.”

We as human beings all have a myriad of goals and desires that drive us to push ourselves.

Many of us have dream schools, a significant other who we want to make happy at all times, or a job that we believe we will just DIE if we don’t get. These dreams are all-consuming, and are wonderful for motivating people to exert as much effort as possible to make them reality.

However, the problem is, sometimes, no matter how hard we work, we won’t get that admissions letter, or the person we depend on the most turns out to cause a lot more harm than good in our lives. I’m not saying it’s not great to fall in love or to have goals for the future, but we have to stop tearing ourselves apart over outcomes that we can’t control.

I’d be lying if I said being in these situations weren’t devastating.

How do you move on from something that you put every ounce of your being into trying to succeed at?

How do you handle the betrayal of someone you thought had only your best interest at heart?

We become so consumed by our “failure” that we begin to question our own efforts and value. “Why wasn’t I good enough?” and “What did I do wrong?” constantly circle throughout our minds, and slowly, we fall into the trap of thinking that we didn’t try hard enough, or that we won’t amount to who we thought we could be.

However, I am here to tell you this: you are defined by much more than your failures.

Yes, these situations are heart-wrenching. They challenge your character, but they should not have the ability to destroy your fight. As cliche as this sounds, every single thing that happens in your life is an experience to grow. You have the option of dwelling in grief and self-pity when faced with adversity (hint hint: less desirable option), or you can learn from these less than desirable situations, and become stronger from them.

Abandon your pride and don't be afraid to admit that you failed, but ensure that you evaluate where your areas of weakness are and strive to strengthen them. Use this pain as motivation to become an even greater version of yourself.

If you allow your confidence to be crippled by a single instance of defeat, you will begin to fear failure more than you value success.

As Winston Churchill once so eloquently said, “Success is stumbling from failure to failure with no loss of enthusiasm.”

I challenge you to continue to work diligently to reach your dreams, and stop plaguing yourselves with thoughts of how things "might have been." Instead, focus on what you know they can be.

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Our Struggle: Tackling Millennial Debt

In a generation where friendships and relationships don't last, debt is the only constant factor.


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As I sit on Jane's bed, I begin to start typing a topic that has been long over due, millennial debt.

Debt is not just a financial entity, but is intertwined in every aspect of our lives. It shapes the way we grow up, our political views, and even our friends.

I think my finances could be better, and it stresses me out sometimes, but why am I in debt to begin with?

As I started to ask this question for my own beneficial purposes, I realized that people around me are worse off.

During spring quarter I had (what felt like) my first big girl finance talk. An Alpha Phi alumna came and gave a quick talk about the book "Rich Bitch", and I loved it. It was the first time I was exposed to the theory of 'financial stability' and I wanted it. I kind of thought of college as this lawless place, where I can do whatever and figure it out later, but it's not. Talking about finances is uncomfortable and weird, but it has to be done. Just because you have a job doesn't mean you can do what you want, especially when you're spending and are already in debt. I feel like it's harder going to school in a big city because everything is so expensive. There's so much to do and explore, and it all cost money.

I looked around me and realized for the first time that people take out crazy loans to go to school.

I think our culture is very fucked up.

"But it's all cool and all because we're all doing it". What kind of mentality is that? We don't have to go to school, let alone a private expensive university. Where is this pressure that 'going to college solves everything' ? Going to college does not guarantee you the best years of your life. You might not find your 'sisters' or 'brothers'. I am the living proof that college kinda f*cking sucks, people are shitty and justify their behaviors on alcohol.

So why are we spending so much money to be here?

The loans that we are taking out are not for education, but for the lifestyle that college offers. The debt you will have for the rest of your life, is for four years of 'college'. You're going to take out loans just so that you have a desk job, go out to happy hours with your buddies, and save for European vacations once in a while; while slaved to your loans for pretty much the rest of your life. When did this become the norm? There's nothing wrong with this lifestyle, because it provides a sense of security, but it cannot be the path we take because we are scared to explore our other options.

Millennials are in debt, partly due to our parents being a mess. How many of our parents attended college, let alone in this era? College is not for everyone, and it's okay to experience it and leave, just as much as it is okay to never experience it. Why are we taking out loans and settling to a life full of debt? Because it's safe. Debt is the only thing that lasts. In our generation friendships and relationships come and go, but debt stays.

What is wrong with us?

I'll tell you what (I think is) wrong with us. We grew up when the internet was a 'new' invention. How many of us can talk to our parents, and seek advice? We are exposed to the world, good and often bad, that is enough to want us to take comfort in a distorted version of reality. We are a generation that has it's own problems, it's own new wave of statistics. We are the generation that people will write books about a decade from now. We are the generation that has fun for Instagram likes. We are the generation of $6 dollar lattes. We are the generation that hides on their phone when confronted with awkwardness. We are the generation that has crew love. Our best accomplishment is making it on Old Row. We are the generation that has less racial tension. We are the generation of Rupi Kaur poetry. It's not all bad, but the bad parts are bad.

A decade from now, we will see that everyone that attended and graduated college, must of had something really wrong with them, myself included. How are we able to do all this homework and keep up with social and economic pressure? Are we giving up our sanity in return? Are we blindly following a system that doesn't actually better us?

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