Value Success More Than You Fear Of Failure

Value Success More Than You Fear Of Failure

As Winston Churchill once said, “Success is stumbling from failure to failure with no loss of enthusiasm.”

We as human beings all have a myriad of goals and desires that drive us to push ourselves.

Many of us have dream schools, a significant other who we want to make happy at all times, or a job that we believe we will just DIE if we don’t get. These dreams are all-consuming, and are wonderful for motivating people to exert as much effort as possible to make them reality.

However, the problem is, sometimes, no matter how hard we work, we won’t get that admissions letter, or the person we depend on the most turns out to cause a lot more harm than good in our lives. I’m not saying it’s not great to fall in love or to have goals for the future, but we have to stop tearing ourselves apart over outcomes that we can’t control.

I’d be lying if I said being in these situations weren’t devastating.

How do you move on from something that you put every ounce of your being into trying to succeed at?

How do you handle the betrayal of someone you thought had only your best interest at heart?

We become so consumed by our “failure” that we begin to question our own efforts and value. “Why wasn’t I good enough?” and “What did I do wrong?” constantly circle throughout our minds, and slowly, we fall into the trap of thinking that we didn’t try hard enough, or that we won’t amount to who we thought we could be.

However, I am here to tell you this: you are defined by much more than your failures.

Yes, these situations are heart-wrenching. They challenge your character, but they should not have the ability to destroy your fight. As cliche as this sounds, every single thing that happens in your life is an experience to grow. You have the option of dwelling in grief and self-pity when faced with adversity (hint hint: less desirable option), or you can learn from these less than desirable situations, and become stronger from them.

Abandon your pride and don't be afraid to admit that you failed, but ensure that you evaluate where your areas of weakness are and strive to strengthen them. Use this pain as motivation to become an even greater version of yourself.

If you allow your confidence to be crippled by a single instance of defeat, you will begin to fear failure more than you value success.

As Winston Churchill once so eloquently said, “Success is stumbling from failure to failure with no loss of enthusiasm.”

I challenge you to continue to work diligently to reach your dreams, and stop plaguing yourselves with thoughts of how things "might have been." Instead, focus on what you know they can be.

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22 New Things That I Want To Try Now That I'm 22

A bucket list for my 22nd year.


"I don't know about you but I'm feelin' 22," I have waited 6 long years to sing that and actually be 22! Now 22 doesn't seem like a big deal to people because you can't do anything that you couldn't do before and you're still super young. But I'm determined to make my 22nd year a year filled with new adventures and new experiences. So here's to 22.

1. Go sky diving.

What's crazier than jumping out of a plane? (Although I'll probably try indoor skydiving first.)

2. Go cliff jumping/diving.

I must be the only Rhode Islander who hasn't gone to Jamestown and jumped off a cliff.

3. Ride in a hor air balloon.

Up, up and away.

4. Try out skiing.

Cash me in the next Olympics, how bout dat.

5. Try out snow boarding.

Shawn White, I'm coming for you.

6. Go bungee jumping.

Because at least this time I'll be attached to something.

7. Go to Portugal.

I mean I'm Portuguese so I have to go at some point, right?

8. Go to Cape Verde.

Once again, I'm Cape Verdean so I have to go.

9. Vist one of the seven wonders of the world.

I mean hey, Egypt's on, my bucket list.

10. Try out surfing.

It's only natural that somebody from the Ocean State knows how to surf.

11. Learn a new langauge.

Because my little bit of Portuguese, Spanish and Latin isn't cutting it anymore.

12. Travel to a state that I've never been to before.

Fun fact: I've only been to 17 of the 50 states.

13. Go paddle boarding.

Pretty boring but I've never done it.

14. Go scuba diving.

I'm from the Ocean State so I guess I should see the ocean up close and personal.

15. Learn how to line dance.

There's actually a barn in my state that does line dancing, so this one will definitely get crossed off.

16. Go kayaking.

All this water around me and I haven't done a lot of the water activites.

17. Stay the night in a haunted hotel room.

I bet if I got my friends to come with me, it would be like the Suite Life of Zach and Cody episode, minus the ghost coming out of the wall but you never know.

18. Get my palms read.

Because who doesn't want to know their future.

19. Go to a medium.

Like a medium that can communicate with people that have died.

20. Take a helicopter ride.

Air plane: check Helicopter:....

21. Sleep under the stars.

Because sleeping in a tent is more like glamping than camping

22. Just to try new things in my everyday life.

Whether it's trying a new restaurant, getting something different at my usual restaurants, changing my usual style, going on the scary rides at amusement parks, and bringing things I used to do back into my life now.

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Success Is Not Defined By One Factor

Success cannot be defined by only one thing; people have different definitions of success


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Define success on your own terms. Don't let a standard definition drive what you think you need to do to achieve success. Success cannot be defined by only one thing; everyone has different definitions of success. Don't be afraid to create your own definition, even if it breaks the mold.

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