Value Success More Than You Fear Of Failure

Value Success More Than You Fear Of Failure

As Winston Churchill once said, “Success is stumbling from failure to failure with no loss of enthusiasm.”
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We as human beings all have a myriad of goals and desires that drive us to push ourselves.

Many of us have dream schools, a significant other who we want to make happy at all times, or a job that we believe we will just DIE if we don’t get. These dreams are all-consuming, and are wonderful for motivating people to exert as much effort as possible to make them reality.

However, the problem is, sometimes, no matter how hard we work, we won’t get that admissions letter, or the person we depend on the most turns out to cause a lot more harm than good in our lives. I’m not saying it’s not great to fall in love or to have goals for the future, but we have to stop tearing ourselves apart over outcomes that we can’t control.

I’d be lying if I said being in these situations weren’t devastating.

How do you move on from something that you put every ounce of your being into trying to succeed at?

How do you handle the betrayal of someone you thought had only your best interest at heart?

We become so consumed by our “failure” that we begin to question our own efforts and value. “Why wasn’t I good enough?” and “What did I do wrong?” constantly circle throughout our minds, and slowly, we fall into the trap of thinking that we didn’t try hard enough, or that we won’t amount to who we thought we could be.

However, I am here to tell you this: you are defined by much more than your failures.

Yes, these situations are heart-wrenching. They challenge your character, but they should not have the ability to destroy your fight. As cliche as this sounds, every single thing that happens in your life is an experience to grow. You have the option of dwelling in grief and self-pity when faced with adversity (hint hint: less desirable option), or you can learn from these less than desirable situations, and become stronger from them.

Abandon your pride and don't be afraid to admit that you failed, but ensure that you evaluate where your areas of weakness are and strive to strengthen them. Use this pain as motivation to become an even greater version of yourself.

If you allow your confidence to be crippled by a single instance of defeat, you will begin to fear failure more than you value success.

As Winston Churchill once so eloquently said, “Success is stumbling from failure to failure with no loss of enthusiasm.”

I challenge you to continue to work diligently to reach your dreams, and stop plaguing yourselves with thoughts of how things "might have been." Instead, focus on what you know they can be.

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I used to just laugh it off when someone thought I was 12 years old back when I was in high school, but now that I am three years deep into college getting ready to graduate, I don’t laugh anymore. If you are in the same situation as me looking like a child trying to get into a bar/club and the bouncer is questioning if your ID is fake, please read on — you may relate very much. Here are 11 things 20+ year-olds who look 12 are tired of hearing:


1. I didn’t know they let 12-year-olds work here.

Nope. They don’t.

2. What school do you go to?

Me: Florida State.

Person: University?!

3. *Tries to get a sample at Target* Is your parent nearby?

Let me FaceTime my mom really quick and ask her permission for this protein bar sample.

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4. *Server at a restaurant* Here you go, sweetie. What can I get you, darling? Hi, honey, how are you?

You are no more than three years older than me, there is no need for "sweetie."

5. It’s your birthday? Happy Birthday! How old now, fourteen/fifteen?

6. You look so much older when you wear makeup.

Is that supposed to be a compliment?

7. Wow, you're how old? You look like you are twelve.

Have you seen a twelve-year-old lately?

8. You probably just look young because you're short.


9. *Tries to flirt with a guy* You're a little too young for me I think.

I'm your age. Maybe even older.


10. Are you old enough to see this movie? Can I see your ID please?

11. You're going to be so thankful when you are in your 50's.

So I've been told. Hopefully, it's worth it.

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To All The Dreamers Who Feel They Can Never Achieve 'Greatness'

We underestimate the amount and level of confusion and feeling lost that you endure when chasing your dreams.

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Do you have really big dreams?

I have always had really big dreams about everything. It's kind of annoying because big dreams are great things and greatness takes time. One of my dreams was that I always wanted to be somebody and make a difference all over the world. And learning from "The Greats", I know that this could take a long time, but I'm doing it.

When studying "The Greats," I learned what keeps my generation from being "great" rather than just "good."

They say over and over again that we're too prideful. The toxins in our generation are in our pride, complacency, and a sense of entitlement. When I spent so much time studying this and praying about it, I found out pride was an abnormal normal for me.

I didn't even realize that I was prideful. Naturally, my knee-jerk reaction was to be in denial about it. I didn't know how to combat different levels of complacency and I didn't recognize where I was complacent but thankfully I serve a God who isn't even going to let ME get in the way of his plans for me.

The "Greats" really taught about how we underestimate this barrier to greatness. We underestimate the momentum it takes. We underestimate the failing. We underestimate the getting back up. We underestimate the amount and level of confusion and feeling lost that you endure when chasing your dreams.

We underestimate the falling down that it takes to keep going.

I study a lot of these things and try to give encouragement to as many young people as I can about this because I want us all to win. I want us all to win because we all have a purpose. We all have something to give and as long as we're breathing we all have work to do.

Pride terrifies me if I'm being honest. Two years ago, I would've never said this- but I would rather be humbled all day than to be full of pride and drunk on my own opinions. Pride has only made me selfish and make so many situations about me when they're not. Pride blinds me from seeing the bigger picture in life that keeps my anxiety down. Pride is in the simple things and it really creeps up on you. Pride sneaks up on you in those little moments that steps on the toes of the "you" that thinks "you're too big" to do whatever desperate-looking situation you're facing.

In real life, I've seen myself submit to that knee-jerk reaction to be prideful in a tough situation rather than humble myself and be vulnerable because I was in the company of others. I've seen myself react to others in a prideful way to defend my insecurities and that type of behavior has wounded my relationships in ways I haven't always been able to fix. I've seen myself respond pridefully to opportunities that I didn't get or opportunities that I didn't think I was worthy of because of my own insecurities and I've ended up ruining or losing opportunities because of it.

The worst ones were when I would let my pride keep me from receiving the help that someone was giving me but I interpreted it as judgment and criticism maybe because of their tone of voice or because they didn't give me advice in a nice, little gift-wrapped text message or the way I expect advice/criticism to come.

Sometimes the best "criticism" that I've been given has come in the most brutal and ruthless tones and also came from people who had impure motives with their intention of "criticizing" me or giving me advice. But that's not the point.

There's more to those situations than trying to keep myself from feeling like someone has been talking condescending to me. There's value in the "criticism" regardless of how it was given and God has shown me that these are the situations that those people that have accomplished their dreams are talking about.

These are the situations where we let our pride get in the way and we lose all value of the opportunity we've been given to grow.

I'm not advocating for people to talk down to others or that being reprimanded feels good either. But are you going to let someone else's temperament or tone of voice be the reason why you only made it but so far? Are you going to let YOU get in your own way?

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