The month of February results in empty pockets from buying heart shaped lollipops and oversized teddy bears for a crush or expensive reservations at a fancy restaurant to show someone you care. On the other hand, there are those who fret and scurry to find a Valentine for the sake of celebrating the day. But, the importance of celebrating the 21st Century version of Valentines Day on February 14th, although far from the original martyrdom stories, is supposed to be a day of love.
Enjoying a few drinks and a nice dinner with a friend is always wonderful, but celebrating love should not be a once a year occasion. More importantly, this day of love should not be for another, but for you! Self-love is key to a healthy lifestyle and a healthy relationship with a significant other and should be a daily ritual for any individual. To inspire you to focus on loving you this Valentines Day here a few benefits and ideas on what to do this year.
1. Time To Spa and Chill
This Valentine's Day, be intentional with loving yourself and focus on your total well-being. Going to the spa and committing yourself to relaxation is not a crime! Treating yourself at the spa can actually heal you in more ways than one. Researchers
have found that visiting the spa gives a placebo effect that can lead to true physical and psychological healing simply by "the power of the mind [and] believing in the treatment". Another internal benefit is having a moment of quiet in the mind and a much-needed disconnect from technology. Allow someone to take care of you for a change to obtain your best moment of serenity.2. Who Are You?
Do you ever see that one person who is always crying, complaining, or mad at the world? Don't let this be you.This Valentine's Day, take the time to get to know yourself as an individual and determine your own wants, needs, and purpose. Develop your own sense of meaning in life. Only you can make you as happy as you will allow. Make a commitment to make yourself happy for the rest of your life and start by writing out your goals, aspirations and a life you want to create for you. When you understand and love yourself you will gain a sense of self- pride, value, and peace.
3. No Self- Criticism
Self-acceptance is key to a happy life. No more criticizing your weight, appearance, and social life. Quantum physics
has proved "that what you think creates what you are experiencing in your life". Congruency is enlightening. It is time for you to get the most out of life. Don't be the obstacle in your own way that blocks your blessing. Maintain a higher frequency with your thoughts by staying positive and happy and this will attract an array of great people to you. Know you are valuable, accept yourself for who you are and give yourself constant love. "If you don’t feel you deserve anything wonderful, you won’t allow yourself to have it." ~ Janet Poole4. It's Time For You To Get Your Way
Do something you love this holiday season, it is time for you to have your way! Never be afraid to be alone and never feel obligated to other people's opinions or feel obligated to always do what someone else wants to do. Chase your own dreams and live your life as you please. After constantly following others, you tend to lose sight of your own goals. Who cares if you have other people's approval, be a strong leader and others will follow you.
5. We All Want to Live Longer and Better
Did you know that living a happy healthy lifestyle can help you live longer. Do not become comfortable with the position you are in, always strive to be a better version of you every day. Challenge yourself and go beyond your comfort zone, try new things, learn new material, and develop new skills. Keep in mind that “when our focus is just on our own immediate pleasure or pain, we’re much more likely to have difficulty with the aging process,” says Dr. Siegel.
6. Inner Peace
No more panic, no more fear or yearning for another to love you, and no more feeling alone. No more insecurities because this can destroy you. As stated in Lifehack, "When we love with conditions attached, our unmet expectations can create inner turmoil and feelings of resentment. Insecurities destroy peace of mind." It is time for you to be self-satisfied! Once you have gotten ahold of this positive mindset, hold on and never let go. For a few tips to reach your peaceful state of mind listen to soothing music, deep breathing, take a nice walk and enjoy nature or go exercising, throw unnecessary things away, be mindful of the moment you are in, laugh or just smile. But, most importantly accept yourself because uncertainty and doubt will leave you in a state of distress.
Always keep in mind that being in love with you is the best remedy. The more you love and accept yourself the greater peace you will have. When you love yourself we tend to expect less, but always hold yourself accountable to an immense amount of self- love. Love yourself unconditionally!
