Why Valentines Day Might Be Bad

Valentine's Day Doesn't Promote Love, It Prevents It

When there's a day designated to show love, how can we be sure its sincere?


Another Valentine's Day has passed, meaning, there exists millions of couples around the world stocked with heart shaped boxes of chocolate within their homes, all paired with gigantic stuffed teddy bears and withering flowers bought from local supermarkets. Personally, I have no grievances against the holiday's celebration; however, time and time again I see couples who fall apart from misgiven gifts or not "big enough" surprises on Valentine's Day, leading me to think perhaps this holiday isn't as great as it is portrayed. Originally a pagan ritual, Valentine's Day now has turned as a corporate scheme, a means of collecting a profit between the winter holidays and spring sales. After all, if the day is meant to make your significant other feel special and unique, what better way to show them than buying gifts?

It's a logical fallacy, but growingly, we as a society place a dollar value on the depth of love between two individuals. A dozen roses is seen as a grander gesture than a single rose, a bracelet is overlooked by a diamond, but why so? My current theory runs along the lines of complacency to societal norms: if we all annually adjust our mindset to believe we must buy candy and flowers for our significant other, the thought behind the gift is taken away: it becomes an automated response, a "It's Valentine's Day! Where's my gift?" reaction. When gifts then aren't given, or not to the magnitude as others make it, the comparison between the value of love and the value of a gift is then made.

The question that then exists: how do we stop this?

If we continue going in cycles, becoming an increasingly more materialistic society, expecting the grand gestures and falling for the perfectly laid corporate traps, we can never get better. It's a toxic mindset to make love a capitalistic profit scheme, but just as toxic to fall into and become a part of its plan. We must remember as a society that there exists free will behind all actions, and not so eagerly accept the "exactly what she wants" gifts planted around department stores. If we are to truly celebrate the holiday, and make our appreciated loved ones feel special, it takes thought and depth outside preprepared gifts and a dollar value.

It's simply the cause of incorrect priorities: if we continue to value the notion of "big gifts" over true acts of love, no matter how small, we run into the issue of then taking the free will out of the act of appreciation; only pushing ourselves in order to "prove" rather than "show" our love. Valentine's Day has done exactly this: turning showing love as an obligation.

Perhaps our school teachers were right in handing us construction paper, glue, and glitter. It's time we make the little things matter once again.

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How To Stop Being The Toxic Person That You Would Normally Cut Out Of Your Own Life

It's so much easier to pin a problem on someone else than it is to look deep within yourself and take responsibility for the things that you've done. But that's all part of growing up.


I'm sure you've heard it before...

"Cut someone out of your life if they negatively impact your mental health."

"You need to cut off friends, family, anyone that is bad for you and your future."

"You will be so much better off once _____ is gone from your life."

At this point in your life, you've probably cut off one or more people who you believed weren't good for you. You were prioritizing yourself, and that meant letting go of someone, regardless of the memories, bond, and love that you had for them. It was probably difficult, but somewhere down the line, you knew that you did what was best for you. And you stood by that decision.

But how many times have you been the problem?

How many times have you sat down and took the time to analyze a situation, only to come to the conclusion that YOU'RE the one that's messing up? And that if you changed x, y, and z, you could save or help your relationship with your friend, family member, or significant other.

Probably not very often.

It's so much easier to pin a problem on someone else than it is to look deep within yourself and take responsibility for the things that you've done. But that's all part of growing up. At some point, I hope you realize that you weren't so perfect either, after all. And when you do, this is what I want you to think about:

We all go through different phases of our lives, and it's okay to understand and acknowledge that this phase doesn't represent the best version of yourself. Character development isn't a strict upward slope, where you start off being a shitty, underdeveloped, immature person, but then progress into being an angel. There are going to be ups and downs. There are going to be moments where you're really disappointed in yourself, and can't believe that you let yourself slip up to that degree. We all have flaws, we all make mistakes. But also all have so much potential.

As long as you're willing to put in the effort to change (because everyone around you deserves that), then you're on the right track. And I'm proud of you for having the emotional maturity to self reflect and be better. That's the first step.

And the next step is going to involve putting everything you're saying into practice. I can't promise you that it's going to be easy. And I can't promise you that you're going to drastically permanently change overnight. If I did, I would be lying. But what I can promise you is that everything you're going to do will be worth it in the long run. I hope that's enough of a reason to dig deep for a new you.

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Photo Album: Appreciating Mother Nature On Nature Photography Day

There is so much natural beauty around us everyday.


The world is truly a beautiful place. There is so much natural beauty around us that we take for granted everyday. National Nature Photography Day is celebrated on June 15th, and it is a great day to reflect on how wonderful mother nature truly is and to come to the realization that we are killing the earth. We must all work to preserve this earth! And these pictures are just some of the pictures I have taken over the years.

1. Sunsets

Everyone loves a good sunset! I especially love this picture because of how the darker purple turns lighter.

When there is a sunset in the sky, you'll find me outside taking a picture.

Cotton candy skies are always the best.

2. Beach

I love visiting Florida because of their endless supply of palm trees.

3. Lake Lanier

Georgia doesn't have many beaches, but we have amazing lakes where you can rent out equipment such as jet skis.

4. Fort Mountain State Park

I have been to this state park many times, and the view never gets old. The hike to the top isn't very long either.

During the winter, it gets incredibly foggy. It's hard to see anything but perfect to take creepy pictures.

I definitely made my cousin stand creepily in the middle of the forest, no shame.

5. Vogel State Park

The drive up to the trail was beautiful, especially with all the trees.

During the fall, the leaves turn a beautiful color.

The hike to get to the top is strenuous but incredibly worth it.

My family loves to go hiking together. It's a great exercise and bonding experience.

I'm a sucker for a good waterfall.

There was a nice sitting area by the lake as well.

6. Indian Seats

I had a picnic at this park with some friends and it was so much fun!

7. Roswell Mill

This waterfall is gorgeous, and many people actually choose to go into the water as well.

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