Why I've Never Not Had A Valentine

Why I've Never Not Had A Valentine

It's the day of love. It does not mean it has to be romantic.

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If my memory serves me correctly, I have always had a valentine. By that, I don't mean that I have had a boyfriend every single year since I was five.

In Spanish, Valentine's Day is also referred to as "Dia del Amor y la Amistad", which translates to the day of love and friendship. I'm not a big fan of the holiday, because to me someone should show me love every single day, not only one specific day because "everybody else is doing it".

On that note, however, I have always had a valentine. In elementary school, we celebrated the holiday and everyone was each other's valentines. Even that girl (the one who stole your game that you won on Friday because you accumulated enough points to pick it from the prize box) would be your valentine.

In middle school, my grandpa or dad would get me those little chocolate hearts, which are about a dollar at Walmart. I don't recall ever going without one. Then, the next day they'd take me to stock up on candy because of price drops!

In high school, once my friends got their driver's licenses and part-time jobs, we'd finish classes and go to Highway 55 and celebrate Galentine's Day or stock up on cheat day food and go to the park. This year we've all gone our separate ways. We've gone to different schools and maybe communication was just lost, but I'm so thankful for the memories I have with everyone.

This year I'm my own valentine, (which no, it is not shameful) because I learned to love myself enough to celebrate it with myself. Love doesn't always have to be romantic, it does not always mean dinner dates and engagement proposals. Love means calling your mom, your dad, or grandma and wishing them a happy Valentine's Day. It means telling your friends that you're proud of them.

Love means recognizing yeah, it's been a hell of a week, but you got through it. Valentine's Day sometimes means going to your nearest Target, grabbing a bottle of cocktail juice, and putting on a face-mask while catching up on your favorite TV show. Valentine's Day is so generalized to be about romantic love that some people feel alone. You really shouldn't.

If you feel alone, just remember someone loves you for you and maybe it's not your time for romance. If that doesn't help, then I count as your valentine.

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19 Things To Do On Your 19th Birthday

You only turn 19 years old once, so spend the day doing these awesome things!
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Nineteen isn't a fantastic birthday. It is not your 18th birthday where you can start saying, "I'm legal," it's not your 16th birthday when you can have a Sweet 16 birthday party and it is not your 21st birthday where you can finally drink legally.

So here are 19 things that you can do to celebrate your 19th birthday and make the most of it.

1. Sleep in.

Unless you need to wake up early for something, don't set your alarm. Catch up on your sleep and relax for the morning. Enjoy waking up and not having a place to be.

2. Make yourself a nice breakfast.

You only turn 19 once, so make sure it is a good breakfast to start your day off right. Make yourself some eggs, toast, bacon and a nice cup of coffee.

3. Go get a manicure.

It is your birthday; make sure you treat yourself right! You deserve to be pampered on your birthday!

4. Go to the beach.

There is nothing better than getting some sun on your birthday! Enjoy the warm weather and the heat. Swim in the water and soak up some sun.

5. Go to an amusement park.

For those of you who like the thrill of roller coasters, an amusement park is the way to go. Ride roller coasters and eat some fried dough with your friends.

6. Have a party.

This is the most common way to celebrate your birthday. Invite friends to come over and make food. Spend your birthday surrounded by friends and family.

7. Have a bonfire.

This is what I love to do on my birthday. Surround yourself with your best friends, enjoy some s'mores and sit around the fire.

8. Go on a hike.

For the nature lovers, this is the ideal way to spend your birthday. Grab a friend and go to the Adirondack mountains and spend the day hiking.

9. Buy yourself something nice.

That pair of boots you've been staring at for the last two months or that Michael Kors wallet you've been dreaming of? It's your birthday! Go buy it. You deserve it.

10. Have a movie night.

Invite a couple friends over, make some popcorn and have movie theater candy on hand. Watch a couple movies and eat some snacks with your best friends.

11. Call up an old friend.

I'm sure that old friend has been thinking of you too, so why not give them a call? See if they want to go out and get lunch with you.

12. Buy some lottery tickets.

Who knows? Your birthday could end up being your lucky day. Maybe you'll lose all of your money, but maybe you could win some back too.

13. Go to a concert.

What is better than music on your birthday? Hopefully there will be some good music groups in town during your birthday.

14. Bake a cake.

If you love to bake, then make a birthday cake! Decorate it all specially and put your favorite colors and flavors of frosting on it.

15. Do something on your bucket list.

At one point or another, all of us have made a bucket list. Take it out and find something on your bucket list that you can cross off and complete!

16. Spend your day with family.

Enjoy your day surrounded by your family. They will know exactly what to do for the day and how to make sure your birthday is a good one.

17. Visit your favorite place.

Whether you love going to the zoo and seeing the animals, or there is a nearby city that you love going to, spend the day there.

18. Get a haircut.

It is a new year and a new you! Get a haircut!

19. Do something you love doing.

Whether you love reading or love to run, spend the day doing whatever it is you love. It is your birthday and you should spend the day doing what you love.

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How To Bloom This Spring

Embrace the season of growth

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I've always said that spring is my favorite season. Life is full of seasons. Happy seasons, sprinkled with some somber ones. Some difficult seasons, and seasons of love. But through every season of life, there is always something beautiful. Usually in the darkest of seasons, a season of light follows soon behind. And so, through every cold day, I'd feel the darkness in my bones. It would lie heavily on my spirit. I was never too worried, however. Because I knew that the world would soon allow the brightness of spring to illuminate my world and allow joy to find itself once again.

So, I'd like to talk about what spring means to me. Aside from the tangible manifestation of spring—whether it be the flowers, or the buds popping through, or perhaps longer days, and vibrant energy—it's the idea of spring that I personally associate with so greatly.

Spring is all about finding light after darkness. It's about poking your head through the earth even if there's a layer of snow covering the ground. It's about taking that first step toward of a journey of growth.

I always talk about this one particular type of day. The very first spring day. And I'm not talking about the calendar day. But it's first day where you don't have to wear a jacket, and all you want to do is be outside. It is a weight lifted from your spirit, and it is permission to feel the sunlight seep into your pores. The beautiful weather can dictate your growth. It can inspire you to change with the season, to jut out of your darkness and to bloom.

So this spring, allow the beauty of the flowers and the trees, the songs of the birds, and the long, wonderful days of sunlight to foster some growth. Choose to go outside, spend time with people you care about. Allow yourself to listen to what you need. When you take off your jacket this spring, take off any negativity from your life along with it. Free yourself of impurity and pressure in an effort to release into a state of liberation. Spring is the time for rebirth. Ask yourself this spring: What would you like to change? What would you like to do? But most of all, ask yourself what would make you happy. Take this spring to bloom into a better version of yourself. Allow yourself to fall deeply in love this season.

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