6 Of The Worst Sorority Girl Stereotypes That Everyone Believes But Aren't True

6 Of The Worst Sorority Girl Stereotypes That Everyone Believes But Aren't True

The worst sorority stereotypes that everyone thinks is true, but in reality, isn't anything they would expect.

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Throughout my whole life, I've always heard sorority stereotypes ranging from family members, friends, and even strangers. Most of it was solely based off of what movies and TV shows have depicted it as or even the worst real-life horror stories of hazing.

In reality, from becoming a sister of a sorority, I know it isn't anything like the stereotypes. I was terrified of joining a sorority and never did I think that I would join one in college. It actually turned out to be one of the best things I've ever done, but the stereotypes are still out there and they still aren't true.

I've given myself an opportunity to take and joining a sorority, to me, was a big one. I wasn't ready, but I still wanted to give it a shot and at least say I got the experience. Sorority life isn't anything you think it would be, and there are so many stereotypes surrounding it. Here are a few harmful stereotypes you might come across that you should be wary of:

1. All we ever do is party.

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Even if you weren't in a sorority, you would still party in college. You aren't forced to party if you don't want to (aka that's hazing) and you have a right to choose if you want to party with sisters or not. I've never felt pressured to do so and that's not all that we do in a sorority. We have philanthropy events, community service, chapter meetings, socials, etc. Sororities do a lot to expand their reputation and partying is not really one of them, I promise.

2. All sorority girls are fake.

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This one definitely isn't true. Every sorority girl has a personality, trust me. Being in a sorority doesn't mean you have to look perfect at all times. You don't have to wear pounds of makeup and keep your pretty blonde hair straightened. It definitely doesn't work like that.

You're allowed to be comfortable in your own skin and when going through recruitment, you have to be yourself so that you're put in the sorority that you're meant to be in. Going through recruitment and meeting some girls who might seem fake, probably aren't. They're probably really nervous and don't really know what to say so they're going to seem kind of fake to you. You meet so many different girls who all have their own unique traits, they're all going to be a little quirky, and it should always be like that.

3. Only rich girls join a sorority.

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Sure, some girls have money, but NOT ALL girls have money. Dues for sororities definitely are expensive, but it's up to the girl if she finds it all worth it. Some girls pay for their own dues (me) and work our butts off to get the money to pay for it. Financial probation is a thing and it is common for girls to get on financial probation because yes, it is expensive, and you might not have the money up front. Not all of our rich daddies are paying for our sorority dues. Some girls pay their own and most of us aren't as "rich" as you think.

4. You have your friends handed to you. 

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Finding friends in a sorority is just as hard as finding friends if you lived in a dorm. You still have to step out of your comfort zone and be outgoing to find friends. It might be just a tad easier to find friends in a sorority because you've already shared so many memories and have all gone to events together, that friendships just start forming.

People think that with joining a sorority, you just have your friendship handed to you, but it doesn't quite work like that. Many girls drop because they feel like they didn't have any friends in the sorority and didn't find a point to keep moving along with it. So no, you definitely have to form friendships on you're own.

5. We care about social life more than academics. 

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This one is a big fat no. Being a sorority, you have to meet academic goals. You need to have a good, or high, GPA and you're required to have a certain amount of study hours per week. If not, you can be put on academic probation. To even join Greek Life at a college, you must have a certain GPA or you can be put on probation.

There have been many times when I've missed events or a party to go and study/do homework. I've made it a priority, and honestly, if I wasn't in a sorority, I wouldn't be as motivated to keep my academics up. Academics is such an important aspect in joining a sorority that sometimes we might have to miss out on our social life.

6. It's a cult.

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If it was a cult, I promise I wouldn't be sitting here writing this article. Just because you see those two girls swiftly open the double doors and you see a big group of girls clapping and singing does not mean that it's a cult. It's to seem inviting and cute, not be seen as a cult.

In the movies, they have made this a big stereotype especially with hazing, but sororities aren't cults, I promise. We've come a long way with doing cute philanthropy events and donating community service hours, a cult isn't even in our vocabulary. Sororities want to have a sisterhood bond, and because of the old traditions they still follow, some rituals like initiation may seem "cultish" but in reality aren't at all.

Before I ever joined a sorority, I believed each and every single one of these stereotypes. I'm glad I took a chance in doing recruitment because it has brought me so many friendships and memories I don't ever want to let go of. A lot of these stereotypes will most likely live on, but from my experience, not one of these stereotypes have become true and I'm sure a lot of other sorority girls can agree.

I wouldn't give it up for the world and I've been surprised a lot throughout my time of being in a sorority and have realized that it's a lot more than just all the frat boys you meet and all the relations you get to have. From doing cute philanthropy events, sisterhood retreats, semi-formal and formal, etc. you get to keep some of the best experiences you will ever go through in your life.

So don't believe any of these countless sorority stereotypes.

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'Big' And 'Little' Are More Than Just Labels

It is a special privilege, an irreplaceable bond that two girls share.

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One night last year, I was at my big's apartment doing my laundry because I was a freshman and did not feel like paying to do my millionth load of laundry. We were hanging out with her roommates when one of them told me about this girl who dropped out of her sorority. And don't get me wrong, I can understand dropping a sorority for many reasons, but this girl did not tell anyone she was dropping out, not even her little. Her little heard that she dropped from other girls in her sorority that she wasn't even close with.

When the little texted her big and asked why she dropped and why she didn't tell her, the big just said she did not think it was a big deal. Little responded with, “But I'm your little? Don't you think I should have known?"

What breaks my heart is that her big responded with, “It's not a big deal. Big and little are just labels anyways. They don't mean anything."

And that is where she's wrong. Big and little are more than just titles or labels.

Being a big and a little is more than just candy, stuffed animals, stickers, T-shirts, and presents. It is more than just posting numerous pictures with the captions “Love my littleeeeeee" or “I have the best big everrrrrr" with an extreme amount of heart and smiley emoji on Instagram. It is a special bond that two girls share in the world of Greek life. It is something that lasts beyond just four years of college.

Your big spent weeks crafting for you just so that everything was just right, and she spent the week lying to you saying “I wish I could've been your big" or “someone else called dibs on you" and sending you BS hints in your big/little baskets just so you are all that much more excited when reveal time comes.

A big is someone who takes you under her wing and adopts you as her own. Bigs are girls who love you unconditionally — your college role model, if you will.

She is someone you look up to, someone whom you strive to be just like.

She is the one who will always be there for you, no matter what.

She is there during the middle of the day when you need someone to go to Starbucks with.

She is the one you want to pre-game with before all the mixers and parties.

But most importantly, she is the one who is there for you in the middle of the night when your boyfriend breaks up with you or cheats on you, or when your parents tell you the are getting a divorce.

She is the one you can always go to for comfort and will always do whatever she can to make you feel better about yourself — whether it takes a wine and chocolate night while watching "Friends" or "Gossip Girl," or a night out on the town. She knows you better than you know yourself. Having a big sister is one of the most valuable privileges of being in a sorority.

Not only is having a big an honor; having a little is, as well. Your little is the girl you spotted during rush who just had that thing about her that made you think, “Dibs, she's mine." She is the girl who was your bid day buddy, the girl you welcomed to the sorority you both call home. You showed her the way through rush blowout, fraternity parties, mixers, and how to dress up for Halloween so she didn't end up looking like Cady Heron at Chris Isen's Halloween party.

Your little is the girl you show off to all your friends. She is the one you will stick up for no matter what. If it is a bad breakup she is going through, having school problems, family issues or if your risk management is out to get her, you are always there for her when she needs you. You teach her how to be the best big so that when she gets her little, your grand-little, she is just as spoiled as your little was. You teach her how to be a better version of herself, and you can only hope that she takes as much from you as you took from your big.

She's your mini-me, and you love her until the day you die.

Being a big and a little is way more than just a label or a title. It is a special privilege, an irreplaceable bond that two girls share. These girls will be by your side the day you get married, and you will be there for them on their big days. Big and little is something that lasts way more than four years short years at college. It is a friendship that lasts a lifetime.

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Greek Life Has Given Me More Than I Could Have Ever Asked For

An abundance of friends is an understatement.

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They say that recruitment week is the best and worst week of your life.

I didn't realize what this meant until mid-way through the week. The week was lengthy, energy draining and all that fun stuff, but at the end of the process, I would have a new home - a home away from home with 100+ sisters to hang out with.

On bid day when I opened my card, I was ecstatic to get the sorority I wanted. Even though we didn't exactly get to run home (we got dropped off right in front of the house due to safety precautions) all the excitement flowing through my body felt like I physically ran home.

Hopping off the bus, I saw all of my new sisters holding signs with all of the new members' names on them. Looking around and finding my rush crush was the serenest thing ever. That day I met more people than I ever thought was possible. My Instagram, Facebook, Snapchat and every other form of social media I owned was blowing up with an abundance of friend requests, comments and likes from people I didn't even know yet. These people knew me and wanted me there. It was such an amazing feeling to have. I never had a sister growing up or someone to look up to, but now I had more than I could count.

Originally, I didn't fully know what to expect from joining a sorority other than a bunch of new friends and a new home. What I didn't realize is how much this would actually mean to me and how much it would do for me. They say within a sorority what you give is what you get, and I abide by that 100 percent. Sometimes I'm really busy with overruling school life and I don't get as much as I want from Greek life, but when I do give it my time, I have the best times and make the best memories of my life.

I didn't just gain friends when I went Greek, I gained experiences and life-long bonds.

As soon as I walked through the doors of Alpha Epsilon Phi during rush week, I felt a sense of home. I never felt like I had someone to look up to, being that I was the oldest in my family. If I needed anything from professor recommendations, a shirt to wear, advice about a boy, someone to go to Walmart with, someone to study with or anything honestly, I now had it.

Not only did joining a sorority open social doors for me, but I also have opportunities for internships, community service, charity and even more. I also am not limited to just my chapter, I have the opportunity to voice myself within the entire Panhellenic community.

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