There are a lot of things that can make you an unattractive person, and a lot of those things have absolutely nothing to do with your looks. It shouldn’t come as a surprise that the way you act makes people look at you in a certain way. There is a lot that can determine how people perceive you. Although for the most part people’s opinions of you shouldn’t matter, you should try your best to be a decent person.
Your personality plays a huge role in the way people look at you. The things you say, how you react to specific things, and how you go about your day-to-day business shows a lot about you and your character. For a lot of people, the little things are what counts. If you go out of your way to be a good person, it will show and people will typically like you for that. If you’re honest and kind, chances are people will have nice things to say about you. However, if you’re the type of person who has no regard for others, chances are you won’t have a lot of people on your side. It’s not always a great thing when people don’t like you for the way you act and treat others.
In my honest opinion, unreliability is the biggest turn off. Not only are you showing that you don’t have any regard for other people, but you’re showing that you just flat out do not care. It’s pretty disrespectful to be an unreliable person, especially when people need you. Unreliability is something that I’m sure everyone has had to deal with at least one point in their life and everyone knows how much it sucks.
Perhaps you had an experience with someone who said they would show up at a certain time but ended up never coming at all. Obviously things come up and things happen which make plans change. That is to be expected from time to time and it’s totally understandable. But if you’re the type of person to continually break promises and to never keep your word, you’re unreliable, and it’s kind of gross.
Constantly having to make up excuses as to why you couldn’t do something or why you showed up late for the day 17 in a row isn’t a good thing. Sooner or later, people are going to stop coming to you for things. You’ll probably stop getting asked to hang out and essentially your reputation will be slightly damaged.
When people are counting on you to do something or to be there, you should make it a point to keep your word. You should show up when you say you will and you should do whatever you told someone you would. Pushing people off and backing out of things that YOU said you would do is not cool, and it shows your lack of respect for that person.
It’s not hard to be reliable. If you know that you’re going to be late or you know you’re not going to do something, make a phone call. Let someone know your change of plans. Don’t just leave them hanging. I know that a lot of people can agree that unreliable people aren’t the greatest. Just keep in mind that it’s not hard to be a reliable and decent person. Try to remember that with everything that you do.
