I'll be the first to say it: I'm a junior in college who hates to party. I'm not saying that I don't like going out every now and then with my friends or that it's miserable when I do go out because it's totally not. It's actually a great stress reliever to put on a cute outfit and go dance with my roommates and some other friends from school. Laughing, chatting, having a great time. But being in a sorority means that non-Greek people actually expect me to go out Friday and Saturday at least, sometimes even during the week! I've had other college students come up to me before and ask why they didn't see me out at a fraternity house on the weekend or why I went home and missed out on a "great time." News flash: being Greek does not equal party 24/7!
I'm involved in Greek Life, but I am so much more than just the "sorority girl" label. I'm involved in five different organizations, I have two different English (literature and education) majors, and I'm planning on applying to Master's programs within the next year. All the homework that comes with said English majors, my jobs, and my other responsibilities means that I barely have time to eat, let alone spend 48 hours at a frat house. When I do have free time, I like to do yoga, craft, or go shopping with my roommates. Just the other day, my friends and I sat down and all talked about our days and how involved we are in different activities on campus. Sometimes, I just want to go home and spend a weekend away from the stresses of school and enjoying the company of my family. We all know the feeling of relief when walking through the front door, being greeted first thing by your pets and sitting down to talk with your family members.
The stigma of the party scene within Greek life and the pressure to be an avid party goer is almost nonexistent. None of my sorority sisters make me feel uncomfortable or unwanted because I don't like to go out every night. They still love and accept me for who I am, which is the main point of a sorority in the first place. They know that at this point in my life, I am more focused on my studies rather than my social college experience. As I start applying for graduate schools, jobs, etc. I realize that my party days are already behind me. What I do with my life now will follow me forever.
All this being said, there is nothing wrong with the sorority girls who do enjoy going out. I'm of the mindset that people should do what they want when they want and not worry about what other people think. But don't assume we are all like that. Don't assume we all LIKE it either. Whatever you do to unwind, just realize "you do you, boo boo".
