Loving someone is the best and worst thing that can happen to someone. When you actually love someone you are willing to be completely vulnerable with them, believing that they won't use that against you or worst of all hurt you. When we love, we love hard. They can hurt us over and over again, but at the end of the day we pick ourselves up by our boot straps, bite our tongue, and work it out. When you love someone unconditionally you really love them with everything you have.
Outside of my family, and close knit friends, I've only ever loved one guy unconditionally. Yeah, that isn't the only person I've ever loved or dated, which sounds kind of bad. My first love is the only one who can truly say I loved him unconditionally. Even today, we live over a thousand miles apart and I know when he texts me to tell me he's coming home I'm going to be excited, and more than likely drop everything. It's unhealthy to say the least.
Unconditional love makes us do stupid things. We lose a lot of sleep, cry a lot of tears, forgive and forget someone we love unconditionally. A lot of people tell us to give it up, or let go, but we won't. I went three years without seeing my first love, but on my 21st birthday when I saw him, it was like nothing changed. We pretended we were 15 and still crazy about each other. We loved each other hard.
There are ups and downs to loving someone unconditionally. You aren't always happy when you love someone that much, a lot of the times you get hurt and coming back from that isn't easy. It's all the great times in between the bad that keep you around when the storms hit. I think it's true that women love harder than men. They can hurt us and take us to some really dark places, and we are OK with letting them back in and being vulnerable to the next disaster.
There is a difference between being hurt, and being abused. Sometimes women blur the two so when she thinks a man loves her unconditionally, she allows the abuse to go on thinking that in the end it's going to be okay. When someone loves you they won't go out of their way to hurt you. When they do hurt you it will also hurt them because they know that you're upset. Know the difference.
Loving people unconditionally is a talent. I learned growing up that no matter what happens you always love. Yes, there are people I'm thankful I didn't truly love unconditionally, but I am also thankful for the ones I have. They have taught me that I deserve to be loved no matter what. They accept me for flaws and all, and that's so great. Their unconditional love, and laughter have mimicked Christ's love for me. So through all the good days and bad days, find someone who is worth loving no matter what.
