Now more than ever, being in love is a very controversial idea. There are different kinds of love and ways to love and who to love. The options are endless. Ideally as a society we should be more liberated, but somehow I always end up feeling that our liberation can also be our biggest hindrance; especially in a situation as confusing as love.
See back in the day, the role of a life partner or a friend was more or less set, but as our society has begun to become more progressive, the role we can play has been more of a choice rather than a duty. Now, don't get my wrong I love that. We fought hard to get to this point as of right now. I love the endless choices that I have, and I do appreciate that I am privileged enough to have them, but the once set roles still float around in my head as some sort of conditioned thing. Where do we draw the line, and when did love make you weak as a person?
Choosing to dedicate yourself wholeheartedly to someone one used to be romantic in a sense. But the way we are today, it seems like trusting someone else with your whole heart in their hands is pretty naive. I can personally see how that is true because we as humans are fickle in nature, affected by things that we ourselves have no real control over. Though this seems to be true, we also tend to idealize dedicating our entire lives to another person. Almost all of us know the story of Romeo and Juliet. The American wedding industry is far too big for a society that also looks down upon this wholehearted way of loving. Little girls grow up dreaming about their wedding but still can be anything they want to be in life. It's a beautiful thing, but that doesn't mean it's easy. It's pretty hard to actually wrap your head around.
We have grown to mistrust the idea of trusting another human being so much. And this may be the reason there' a drop in marriages and a skyrocket in divorce rates. Personal independence is supposed to be a good thing. It makes you strong and it builds character, but sometimes in the process of building up all that character, you lose all the ones you really love in the process.
Loving another person unconditionally means giving up a part of yourself as well. Now the only relationship where doing so has not become taboo in today's society is the love between a parent and a child, but how do we even get to that relationship without a relationship with someone to whom your genes do not reside in? With all the choices in the world, why do we continue to feel conflicted.?
