Most people don’t ever get to experience heartbreak, some because they marry their first love, some because they never experienced love at all; which opens the debate, is it better to have loved and lost, or to have never loved at all? The most popular belief is it is better to have loved and lost because you don’t miss out on the experiences and the lessons learned. With all that being said, in my personal life, I have experienced 3 different types of love. I’ve come to learn that the overall outline of each of mine are extremely similar to most. Some of you have experienced maybe one of these, some probably all three and then some. And that is okay. Maybe some of you are reading this to find clarity in which relationship is yours. There is no shame in your past or present relationships as long as you learn from each and everyone of them.
The first one you ever loved
Most everyone who has been in a relationship before has experienced this one. This is the one that you swear you are going to marry. The one you experience all of your firsts with, well for me just a few. When you are all in in this relationship its hard to let go of them. A lot of the time, these relationships turn toxic because it's all you know, and you don’t want to lose them. That means your arguments are typically never resolved but you just brush it under the carpet because you love them. Sound familiar? "But I love them, so its worth it”. But is it? After time, it gets old and tiring. This one is the one that taught you how to love and what it is to love, but won’t be the last. For some, it may work out and be the only relationship they will ever have, and probably don’t experience this one the same way. For most though, this one is the biggest heartbreak.
The one that took every piece of you and left you with nothing
This is the one you jump into. The one you met and thought they seemed different than what your used to, so why not? So you, being optimistic and adventurous, jump in with both feet and realize the pool is way deeper than you anticipated. This is the one that builds you up but is simultaneously tearing you down with out you even realizing it. They make you work extra hard for their love, and worst of all manipulate you until you have nothing left to give. But unfortunately, this is the one most people don’t make it out of. They get so wrapped around this person's manipulative finger, that they can’t break away. But if you do, your left feeling broken, lost, and foolish. This one is the one you learn the most from.
The one who came out of no where
This one ironically comes when you stop looking. You start making yourself happy and stop expecting somebody else to do it for you, which is how it should be. You should be happy on your own first. But this one swoops in. They don’t take away from your individual happiness, but only add to it. For me, this one showered me in love, compliments, and flowers long before I even gave him a chance. When I did, I fell so hard I couldn’t get back up, and don’t want to. They have seen you at your worst and loved you unconditionally during it. They make you feel strong, happy, and loved. You never question the relationship and never fear for what comes tomorrow. This one makes you live in the moment and reassures you that they will always be there in the morning. This is the one we feel lucky to have. The one that makes you feel fearless. This love is typically the one you end up with, and I honestly really hope so. This one is the one you should never let go.
As I mentioned earlier, you may have experienced one of these, or all of them. I just hope which ever one you have right now, is the one that makes you happy. Because everyone deserves that.
