Recently, I had a former acquaintance "slide in my DMs" if you consider a Snapchat message a DM, that is. Anyway, said person shared a conversation similar to the one below after I posted this selfie with my twin sister, Mercedes. (I am wearing the glasses.)

This is how the conversation went.

Acquaintance: "You know who's cute?"

Me, Mary: "Your girlfriend?"

A: "What girlfriend ... we broke up."

M: "Oh, I'm sorry."

A: "But, Mercedes though."

Mercedes is my twin. At this point, I am flat out annoyed. I sent a video response to this person and ignored the rest of the chats they sent to me.

Which brings me to the beginning of my new series, #TwinTalk. I'm starting #TwinTalk to shine a light on some of the situations that pop up whilst having a twin. These situations can have perks or downsides, but for the most part, I'm here to let all the twins out there know that I get it.

After this encounter, I was forced to think about all of the times someone had talked to me just because of Mercedes. I have many problems with this, but my first and biggest problem with this is simple: it's annoying. Frankly, I don't care if you think my twin is cute. I'm not her. I will not be your wing-woman that swoops in and saves you from the single life. I probably will disregard your comment just like I ignore promotional emails. To me, your comments are the equivalent of spam emails. But instead of anonymous mailers sending me promotions, I have real people, that I know, telling me how intelligent, beautiful and wonderful my sister is. Tell her, not me.

I know how great my sister is. I am aware of her beauty and intelligence, I mean I have known her my entire life.

Let's be real here, this would annoy anyone. It's almost like just because someone confides in you that they think your sibling or friend is cute that you are now somehow obligated to be their wingman. To be frank, it's just shitty. We aren't in middle school anymore, it's time to grow up and tell people how you feel about them sans going through siblings/friends.

Being a twin is great, but this is one of those aspects of having a wombmate that drives me nuts. I have had people befriend me/talk to me to get to Mercedes. Obviously, we aren't the same person, but it makes me wonder: why not me? This is not a situation unique to twins, but more often than not, I find myself in this situation. I'm a person too, I have feelings too. You shouldn't get to disregard that because you think my twin is hot. Yea, she's hot, but stop using me to get to her. Just because we're twins doesn't give you the right to do that. Yes, we're close but again, that doesn't give you a valid reason to make me feel lesser about myself because you have a ~crush~ on my twin. Stop assuming I'll do you a solid, I was not born to be a wingman for every person that thinks Mercedes is a ~total babe~. That's on you, not me.

In short, talk to me because you want to talk to me not because you want to talk to Mercedes. She has social media too.