Some people like to put twins in a stereotypical box. Some people like to say twins like the same hobbies and sports, or in general all the same things. Well, technically they aren’t wrong about that because it can happen that twins like the same things, but in my case, my twin and I were not like that. I will say it was a struggle not to follow my twins path but have my own path to go on.
In high school, for instance, I was not the strongest in academics and it was so annoying to see my sister in higher levels, and then I was at the bottom. I just didn’t know why I couldn’t understand anything in any core classes and it made me feel dumb, to be honest. Well, I guess I had one thing right though and that was gymnasts, dance, cheerleading and just loving it. My sister never liked it on the other hand and just never understood it like I did. So I was able to show what I was made of through that, and she showed it through academics.
Sometimes it showed through a lot on how people would point out the obvious and it really isn’t nice either to be like did you really ask that question to me. Being a twin has definitely boxed me in a way. Why may you ask? Well, it’s not so nice being told that your twin is better looking than you. Well not to my face but hearing it through others. It kind of made me feel like "why are you comparing my twin and me? We look the same yes, but making me feel like I am nothing really hurts a lot to me at least."
So after I graduated high school in 2015 I thought to myself that I really need to step out of my comfort zone and be seen without my sister always being mentioned or compared to her. But I truly was seen better as soon as my sister went off to college and I really saw a difference. I made friends that she wasn’t friends with, and they were actually friends that I knew wanted to hang with me and not just my sister.
And the most important thing that I wanna say that I see myself more independent from her. I am my own person even though I am a twin and share a birthday and DNA with her. We are two people and don’t need to be seen as one. Even ask her about it and I’m sure she would agree with that.
Now that I’m 20 I finally found myself as my own even though I’m a twin. My twin is happily in her third year of college, in a sorority, and doing well in college in general. I’m finishing up Discipleship Training School in Greece, and I’m so happy I’m living my life, loving myself, and I’m my own person. It's an amazing feeling.
