The Unspoken Truth About College Life From A Freshman’s Perspective

The Unspoken Truth About College Life From A Freshman’s Perspective

College has been one of the hardest experiences of my life so far, but I'm having the time of my life.

Kylie Hofmeister

When people ask me how I’m liking life at NC State, I always ramble on about how much I’m loving college life. Going on and on about how it’s so much fun, blah, blah, blah.

I tell them about all the clubs I’ve joined, all the friends I’ve made and how I’ve spent all my weekends attending football games, basketball games and taking impromptu trips with the girls. And I’m not lying when I tell them how I’m truly loving it.

I really do enjoy my new life here with my new friends, new responsibilities and new identity.

But sometimes it’s hard. People often don’t talk about how overwhelming college is, and when the struggles are brought up they say “oh that’s just how it is, college is supposed to be hard.”

We’re supposed to be sleep-deprived, malnourished, and academically overwhelmed because that’s “just how college is.”

It’s hard to find your niche, and sometimes it feels really lonely.

I know what you’re thinking, “Kylie, how can you be lonely at a school with a student body of over 40,000?” That’s the population of a medium-sized town, I’m sure there’s somebody out there to be your friend.

But that’s just it, there are SO MANY people. And SO MANY student clubs and organizations to join that all sound so fun.

It is way too easy to stretch yourself too thin trying to find out which club suits you best, keep up with socializing and making friends and thinking out your schoolwork. It’s enough to burn a person out before the first month has passed.

I think that loneliness is a form of homesickness. I never thought I’d be one to get homesick -- especially since I’m going to a school no more than 15 minutes away -- but being apart from the people I’ve surrounded myself with for the past 18 years has been a major struggle.

People don’t talk about homesickness in college, everyone claims they don’t miss home at all and that they’re having the time of their lives.

I began to think there was something wrong with me for missing home so much when everyone else was clearly not. Why am I so different?

I’ve recently learned that I’m not so different. Everyone feels lonely, overwhelmed and a little bit homesick every once in a while.

There are times when I wish I could go back to a life of baby steps and routine.

And yeah, college is really hard. My classes are hard, I have no free time and I’m forced to push myself out of my comfort zone every single day.

But it has been the best experience of my life thus far, allowing me to think as an individual, put myself out there, become more confident in my own skin and ideas and really get excited about my future.

As time goes on and the culture shock wears off, I’m actually really excited for the three years I have left here and as cliché as it sounds, I’m ready for all the new memories to come.

Report this Content
This article has not been reviewed by Odyssey HQ and solely reflects the ideas and opinions of the creator.
Taylar Banks

May 25, 2020: the day that will forever be remembered as the day George Floyd lost his life at the hands of cops.

The day that systematic racism again reared its head at full force in 2020.

Keep Reading... Show less

These 17 Black-Owned Businesses Ship Baked Goods, Rosé, And Even Fried Chicken Nationwide

Eat your way through this country's greatest food — from your couch.

Call it the easily bored Gemini in me, but I'm constantly looking for new food to try. Usually, travel quenches my taste for new and exciting cuisines, but given the fact that international travel is not always a possibility, I've begun exploring alternatives.

In the interest of wanting to support the Black community and Black-owned businesses, and also wanting to try some of the country's greatest food without having to get off my couch, I started off (pessimistically) doing research, only to find that the options were vast.

Keep Reading... Show less

24 Beauty And Style Brands Donating To The Fight To End Police Brutality Against Black People

From small, boutique brands to legacy fashion brands.

The worlds of beauty and fashion often collide, whether for good or bad. In both, underrepresentation has always been, and remains to be, a major unresolved issue. After the recent killing of George Floyd, many people are rightfully enraged, compounded by the fact his death in police custody wasn't an isolated incident.

Police brutality against Black people is not new, and isn't going away till we start dedicating resources to fighting it. Many of us, as individuals, have only begun in the last week scratching the surface of what it means to educate ourselves on race, historical race relations, and how to be an ally to the Black community.

Keep Reading... Show less
Health and Wellness

Feel A Lil' Better: Because You Can Still Connect While Disconnecting From Social Media

Your weekly wellness boost from Odyssey.

No matter how good (or bad) you'd describe your health, one thing is for sure: a little boost is ALWAYS a good idea. Whether that's reading a new, motivating book, or listening to a song that speaks to your soul, there are plenty of resources to help your health thrive on any given day.

I don't know if you've heard, but there's a lot going on right now, particularly in relation to George Floyd's death, Black Lives Matter, and public protest of racial injustice in the United States. While we can all agree that this deserves conversations, change, and actionable good, social media arguments with Great Aunt Linda are not where social change begins and ends. Spending too much time scrolling through your phone has never been healthy, but now it's even more addicting — what does that one person from my hometown say about this? How can I further education within discussions? Am I posting enough?

Keep Reading... Show less

I don't know about you, but reading is at the top of my to-do list this summer... especially with all the social distancing I'll still be doing. If, like me, you're hoping to pick up a romantic page-turner (or a couple dozen), here are 23 romance novels by Black authors you'll absolutely LOVE reading.

Keep Reading... Show less

22 Black-Owned Etsy Shops With The Perfect Gifts For Everyone In Your Life — Including You

Treat yourself and your loved ones while supporting Black creatives and artisans.

R-KI-TEKT, Pontie Wax, Lovely Earthlings, and blade + bloom on Etsy

The world is taking action against the injustices and under-representation plaguing Black lives, and one small but impactful thing you can do to actively make a difference is support Black-owned businesses.

Etsy is likely one of your go-to sites for gift-buying, but have you ever paid attention to which independent artists and sellers you're buying from?

Keep Reading... Show less
Health and Wellness

True Self-Care Is HARD, That Face Mask Isn't Actually Going To Solve Your Problems

There's a line between self-care and self-destruction.

Anyone who hasn't been living under a rock for the past few years has seen something somewhere about self-care whether it was on Facebook, Twitter, or their Instagram feed. Oftentimes it's pictures of celebrities or influencers sipping green smoothies or slathering on mud masks with #selfcare. It's posts like these that made me realize that "self-care" has become the ultimate buzz word, soaring in popularity but in the process, it's lost most of its original meaning. It's time to set the record straight and reclaim the term.

Although self-care has been around for quite some time, within the past few years it's been misconstrued and commodified as our capitalist society tends to do with things it thinks can be profited off. Self-care is now being peddled as something that can be bought and sold on the shelf at Target rather than something that takes real work to achieve. This fake self-care movement is not only enabling people to over-indulge themselves, but it has created a crutch for people to avoid the responsibility of taking true care of themselves. Instead of doing the work that needs to be done, many people fall into the trap of rewarding themselves for doing nothing at all — this can quickly become an unhealthy coping mechanism, especially with corporations cheering us on (to buy their next product). Long, hard day at work? Just grab your third iced coffee of the day! Fight with your SO? Buy that 50-dollar face mask, it'll make you feel better! This is how self-care becomes self-sabotage and self-destructive.

Keep Reading... Show less

Minorities are consistently under-represented in our day-to-day lives, notably in the world of fashion. It's likely you're looking for a way to support black artists. Whether that's the case or you're just a fashion-lover in general, these brands aren't just some of the best black-owned fashion brands — they're some of the most innovative brands of our time, period.

From luxury staples to fun accessories and loungewear, these brands aren't just stunning names you should definitely be following on Instagram, each honors the founder's roots in unique ways with the power of storytelling through artistic expression that manifests in pieces we can't wait to wear.

Keep Reading... Show less
Facebook Comments