Having feelings for someone is inevitable and easily becomes complicated if it happens to be your friend.

The feeling is engraved in you, eating you alive, you no longer ignore it. There it comes, the urgency to confess built by the uncertainty. As you take a deep breathe to release your anxiety the confession slides off your lips. If you're hearing something around the lines of, “I just don’t see you like that,” you’ve been friend zoned.

If you’ve ever been in this situation you know how devastating it can be.

Getting to know someone is always pleasant because we find ourselves with a new friend. However, realizing it turned into a romantic interest can be frightening. Tossing and turning trying to get behind the idea of confessing can be tricky. However, I have to say it’s necessary. Hiding your feelings is not healthy for you and I strongly suggest avoiding wondering what could’ve happened by taking the risk.

The fear of never having the same relationship shouldn’t stop you either. Change is inevitable and challenging but doesn’t necessarily mean an end. The minute your feelings turned into romantic the relationship already changed. Truthfully, confessing may alter your relationship ONLY because the person is now aware of how you feel. We become our hardest critic so before you fear being in the friend zone, just go for it.

Although it may be harder it’s important to confess via face-to-face. The initial reaction is more than a verbal response, it includes posture, face expression, tone of voice, etc. Essentially it offers more understanding of how the person feels after hearing the confession.

After the first tense minutes, you realize that being in the friend zone isn’t the end of the world. Maybe a small slap in the face, but also a relief. There is no more uncertainty, sure the outcome wasn’t your desired one but at least you have an answer. The feeling bottled inside you can finally fade away and although it may hurt it also informs you to move on.

Moving on is always easier said than done but, communicating your feelings brings you one step closer. After basically being told it’s not going to happen, we become consciously aware that there is no chance. Its harsh but here’s the deal, you have no chance, but at least you know. You can either keep trying or keep moving forward. Your choice, but you’re not alone because I too have been through this.