"The people you talk to in high school aren't going to be the same people you talk to in college."
I'm sure we've all heard this statement or a variation of it. And to be honest, it's one of the realest statements we'll ever hear.
In elementary school, you make friends and think that those will be the same friends you have in middle school, high school, college, and then inevitably at your wedding. Sometimes it works out like that, but it seems more and more impossible nowadays.
It's true that I kept some friends from elementary school until high school. It's true that I kept a few middle school friends until high school as well. And it's true that I've kept a few high school friends until now.
But even looking year to year, I notice I was friends with a certain person at first, then I wasn't a little later on. Some friendships just don't seem to work out, and won't work out for whatever reasons. And that's okay.
As life goes on, you discover yourself. Cheesy, I know. But true.
In discovering who you are as a person and what you want or need from life, you start to discover who doesn't fit into the equation. Sometimes it's people you are kind of close with and can easily remove from the picture, but other times it's much more complicated.
You may be friends with someone for many years, go through a lot of stuff together, and then realize that he or she is also discovering his or herself. He or she may end up liking things or people that you don't.
And if you don't want to be involved in all of his or her new interests, especially if they start to turn into a different person because of those interests, you need to do what's best for you. In some cases, it's okay to be selfish and may even be better to be.
We're always told not to settle when it comes to relationships, so why limit that to only romantic ones?
Can't we also be told not to settle when it comes to platonic relationships? Sometimes friendships turn toxic, maybe even in similar ways that romantic relationships do. Staying in a friendship like that is not healthy for either person involved is never a good thing.
Don't tell yourself that things will change or get better because you can never be sure. If ending things with that person seems too easy, perhaps it should have been done sooner. If it's too hard to do, maybe it wasn't worth doing. The only person to know that for sure is you.
There are no set guidelines for something like this because each situation is different and each person has their own views.
Sometimes, things are easier said than done.