True love. Many of you might have scoffed while reading those words or you might’ve read them and immediately had a fantasy, dream or person in mind. Whatever your reaction, I believe you do have a true love, but what I believe doesn’t matter…only what you do.
True love is a love that is true, isn't it? A love that isn't tainted by lies; love in its purest form, right? The dictionary will tell you love is an intense feeling of deep affections, but that seems too flat to me. How can that explain the love in my boyfriend’s eyes when he looks at me? How does that describe how I feel when he walks into a room or when I think of his laugh? How does that describe how I feel when he talks, with love in his voice, about how our daughter (in ten years when we have one) is going to have my eyes? And how in the world does that define what it feels like to feel all that I just said and at the SAME time feel that he is the most big-headiest, loudest, annoying man I ever met? It doesn't. There can't be a description for love, love is subjective. Love is a feeling that is indescribable, it is something that you just feel. I always say, "You just know when you know" and I know that's annoying because what the hell is that? "You'll know when you know"?! That's not even really saying anything, but its the truth! That’s why it only matters what YOU see and what YOU believe, because how I know my true love is my true love, might not be how you know your true love is your true love.
So, I ask you, what does true love mean to you? What is it and does is it even exist?
“No such thing! We have good lovers, but we often settle in relationships, instead of actually finding…true love. So, I guess it does exist. It’s just rare.” – Rachel, 34
“I believe it does exist. It’s never going to be how you picture it, though. We always have this picture in our heads, you know, we want someone as good looking as us or someone so perfect. It’s probably going to be the exact opposite. So, get that picture of perfect love out of your head.” – Mrs.D, 53
I got many yes’s and just a few no’s. Most commonly people agree that’s there’s no one clear answer. There isn’t a checklist or a lineup of true loves that we can pick from; there are too many factors to add in…
“It differs for every person. Not everyone loves the same. For me, true love is more than the romance and cuddles. It’s the compassion, being there for them, tolerating all of their quirks and accepting them for that. True love is bringing them a tissue when they’re too sick to get it themselves…genuinely caring…no, it’s more than caring. It’s loving every aspect about them, especially the parts you don’t like.” -Amy, 43
"Love is like driving...there's too many ways to turn." -Lashawna, 26
“There’s different types of love. I believe everyone has a soulmate. It’s like how God made Adam and Eve, they’re made for you; you just have to find them. You’ll know when you see them because you’ll already feel connected to them.” - Jaqueez, 16
"We're all a little weird, and life's a little weird. And when we find someone whose weirdness is compatible with ours, we join up with them and fall in mutual weirdness and call it love." – Dr.Seuss
and just because you love someone doesn’t mean you’re in love with them. Yes, you can love someone and not be in love with them! I could get really complicated here, but I think my 16-year-old brother said it best:
“You know you’re in love if you feel it deep in your heart. If any day, any time, any year, and no matter what mood you’re in, if you still want to be with them forever, then you’re in love.” -Jaqueez, 16
Whether, you are patiently waiting or checking Tinder every day, your true love is out there. Try not to look for them, because then it’ll take longer; just like it does when you watch the clock at work.
So, with all that said and done, tell me…do you believe in true love?
