​The Importance Of Friendship

​The Importance Of Friendship

A tribute to those who have been and will forever be.

Lately, I’ve been thinking about what makes a friendship one worth being in. I’ve been curious to know what is that common denominator of all friendships that can truly make one worth it. After too many hours of over-thinking and nearly having an existential crisis over the matter, I believe I have managed to define the importance of friendship as I see it.

To me, a friendship is more than just a relationship you have in your life; it’s a core part of who you are. There is a saying here in Puerto Rico that says “Dime con quién andas, y te dire quién eres.” This essentially translates to “Tell me who you are with, and I’ll tell you who you are.”

Though, somewhat controversial with the younger generations, I believe this is very evident. Depending on who you are with, your behavior changes. You are not the same person with you are friends as you are with your parents, by nature’s default. Who you hang out with determines your behavior, whether we like to admit it or not. Not only that, but the people around you shape you into the person you will later become, which is why friends are key.

Friends are like waves, they come and go, but it is important to remember that, just like a wave, they always leave a little trace of them behind. I cannot say that I haven’t lost once really close friends, but it is because of those friends that I have learned and grown into the person that I am now. I can also say that I have made some incredible friends that to this day are still in my life. These are the people I consider my best friends.

A best friend is someone that is there to celebrate your successes and help you back up in your downfalls. A best friend is that person you can’t wait to share news with. A best friend is that person you can call in the middle of the night because you’re having a panic attack. A best friend is that person you know you can count on for anything and everything. They are your go-to, your partner-in-crime, your family.

But most importantly, a best friend is something sacred, because that love that you share is not because of blood, it’s because you chose to be in each other’s life and to be there for each other, no matter the circumstances.

To those who were and forever will be, thank you for being a part of my life. Know that I love you and cherish every second we’ve spent together and the ones that are yet to come.

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To The Dad Who Didn't Want Me, It's Mutual Now

Thank you for leaving me because I am happy.

Thank you, for leaving me.

Thank you, for leaving me when I was little.

Thank you, for not putting me through the pain of watching you leave.

Thank you, for leaving me with the best mother a daughter could ask for.

I no longer resent you. I no longer feel anger towards you. I wondered for so long who I was. I thought that because I didn't know half of my blood that I was somehow missing something. I thought that who you were defined me. I was wrong. I am my own person. I am strong and capable and you have nothing to do with that. So thank you for leaving me.

In my most vulnerable of times, I struggled with the fact that you didn't want me. You could have watched me grow into the person that I have become, but you didn't. You had a choice to be in my life. I thought that the fact that my own father didn't want me spoke to my own worth. I was wrong. I am so worthy. I am deserving, and you have nothing to do with that. So thank you for leaving me.

You have missed so much. From my first dance to my first day of college, and you'll continue to miss everything. You won't see me graduate, you won't walk me down the aisle, and you won't get to see me follow my dreams. You'll never get that back, but I don't care anymore. What I have been through, and the struggles that I have faced have brought me to where I am today, and I can't complain. I go to a beautiful school, I have the best of friends, I have an amazing family, and that's all I really need.

Whoever you are, I hope you read this. I hope you understand that you have missed out on one of the best opportunities in your life. I could've been your daughter. I could have been your little girl. Now I am neither, nor will I ever be.

So thank you for leaving me because I am happy. I understand my self-worth, and I understand that you don't define me. You have made me stronger. You have helped make me who I am without even knowing it.

So, thank you for leaving me.

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An Open Letter To The Friend Who Continues To Save My Life

No one knows me like you do.


From the day we became friends, we have always had nothing but support for one another. Although we have only really been friends for about seven years now, I feel as if you have always been a part of my life. You know me just as well as you know yourself, and I understand you in the same way I understand my own thoughts and feelings.

You have never made me feel pressured, insecure, or unappreciated. The mutual respect we have for one another is unmatched. We can talk to each other about anything; from some of the most trivial topics to entire life philosophies. We have grown and matured together, and I couldn't be more proud of the person you are today.

We don't always agree on everything, and I always appreciate your fresh point of view, but I have never felt more in sync with another person than I do with you. We share the same birth month, the same age, the same home town, the same anxieties, and many of the same attitudes and values.

I feel as if you know exactly when I want to be alone and when I need company. Since we are both introverted, we understand that the other person needs time to recharge. And when I'm sitting alone with nothing to do, I always get a text from you asking to hang out.

In some of my loneliest, most vulnerable moments, you have been there. When I question how many true friends I really have, you are always sure to make your love for me known.

Through high school, and now college, we have experienced so many life-changing events together. Some that have taught us extremely valuable lessons, and others that have shown us incredible pain and how to grow from our lowest moments.

I want to thank you for showing me what life-long friendship looks like. Thank you for always understanding me and never putting too much pressure on me. I see an incredible future for both of us no matter where each of our lives takes us.

We will always share a unique connection that cannot be separated by any distance. But, for now, I'm glad you're only one text or phone call away.

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