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5 Huge Things You Can Only Learn After You've Come Out As Transgender

It's been over a year and I've learned a lot so far.

Cas Barbour

Feb 25, 2019

LGBTQ+ at Odyssey

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5 Huge Things You Can Only Learn After You've Come Out As Transgender

Coming out as a trans guy has been one of the coolest things I have ever done, but it has also been really scary and frustrating at times. In the past year and a half (ish) I've learned a lot about myself and life as a trans person.

1. I was the last one to know that I was trans

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When I came to my best friend all she did was ask me what I wanted for dinner because she genuinely didn't care, she already knew. Again, when I told my mom- all she said was "I know". Apparently, I was the last person to realize that I was trans.

2. Insurance companies are the literal WORST

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If you want to start HRT or try and have any type of surgery; good luck my friend. You will become BFF's with your insurance company (if you're lucky enough to have one). In the past month my mom and I have called my insurance company and doctors offices at least twenty times, and I still don't have an initial appointment to even start HRT.

3. You're going to want a therapist

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If you don't already have one, you're going to want a therapist. Your therapist is going to be your second biggest BFF (aside from the insurance company). Not only is it super great to have someone to talk to about your new life (it's not new, it's just new living it in front of people), but you have to have one to get your letters to start HRT or be considered for therapy.

4. You'll have a lot of questions & you'll have to answer a lot of questions

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Coming out means people have a lot of questions- you don't have to answer any of these questions if you don't want to. On top of the questions everyone has for you, you're going to have a lot of questions for yourself and everyone else too. Take time to find the right answers. What name you want, if you want to change your name, what pronouns to use, what doctors to use, and anything and everything in between.

5. Being out is the most freeing feeling in the world

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Take this time and enjoy it. Being in the closet is difficult and being out is so rewarding. The road ahead of you is long and it won't always be easy, there will still be hard times but you're on the way up now. Just take care of yourself.

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5 Huge Things You Can Only Learn After You've Come Out As Transgender

It's been over a year and I've learned a lot so far.

1. I was the last one to know that I was trans

2. Insurance companies are the literal WORST

3. You're going to want a therapist

4. You'll have a lot of questions & you'll have to answer a lot of questions

5. Being out is the most freeing feeling in the world

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The Best Lines from the Fab Four

And in the end, the love you take is equal to the love you make

The sun is up, the sky is blue, it's beautiful and so are you

Love is old, love is new, love is all, love is you

There's nowhere you can be that isn't where you're meant to be

Life is very short, and there's no time for fussing and fighting, my friend

He say, "I know you, you know me", One thing I can tell you is you got to be free

Oh please, say to me, You'll let me be your man. And please say to me, You'll let me hold your hand

It was twenty years ago today, Sgt. Pepper taught the band to play. They've been going in and out of style, but they're guaranteed to raise a smile

Living is easy with eyes closed, misunderstanding all you see

Can you hear me? When it rains and shine, it's just a state of mind

Little darling, it's been long cold lonely winter. Little darling, it feels like years since it' s been here. Here comes the sun, Here comes the sun, and I say it's alright

We danced through the night and we held each other tight, and before too long I fell in love with her. Now, I'll never dance with another when I saw her standing there

I love you, I love you, I love you, that's all I want to say

You say you want a revolution. Well you know, we all want to change the world

All the lonely people, where do they all come from. All the lonely people, where do they all belong

Oh, I get by with a little help from my friends

Hey Jude, don't make it bad. Take a sad song and make it better

Yesterday, all my troubles seemed so far away. Now it looks as though they're here to stay. Oh, I believe in yesterday

And when the brokenhearted people, living in the world agree, there will be an answer, let it be.

And anytime you feel the pain, Hey Jude, refrain. Don't carry the world upon your shoulders

I'll give you all I got to give if you say you'll love me too. I may not have a lot to give but what I got I'll give to you. I don't care too much for money. Money can't buy me love

All you need is love, love is all you need

Whisper words of wisdom, let it be

Blackbird singing in the dead of night, Take these broken wings and learn to fly. All your life, You were only waiting for this moment to arise

Though I know I'll never lose affection, for people and things that went before. I know I'll often stop and think about them. In my life, I love you more

Obviously the best superpower.

There have been many lessons learned.

1. The importance of traditions.

2. How to be thankful for family and friends.

3. How to give back.

4. What the word "community" really means.

5. That it isn't about the destination, but the journey.

6. The consequences of making bad choices.

7. To trust people, until you have a reason not to.

8. To be welcoming and accepting of everyone.

9. How to be my own, individual person.

10. How to work for what I want.

11. How to be great at giving directions.

12. How to be humble.

13. To be well-rounded.

14. How to be great at conflict resolution.

15. The beauty of getting outside and exploring.

16. To be prepared for anything.

17. That you don't always have to do it alone.

18. How to be creative.

19. To brush off gossip.

I have never been so thankful to know you.

Dealing with the inevitable realities of college life.

Don't freak out

Email the professor

Attend the first class

Keep attending class

Have a backup plan

Remember that everything works out at the end

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