5 Huge Things You Can Only Learn After You've Come Out As Transgender

5 Huge Things You Can Only Learn After You've Come Out As Transgender

It's been over a year and I've learned a lot so far.


Coming out as a trans guy has been one of the coolest things I have ever done, but it has also been really scary and frustrating at times. In the past year and a half (ish) I've learned a lot about myself and life as a trans person.

1. I was the last one to know that I was trans


When I came to my best friend all she did was ask me what I wanted for dinner because she genuinely didn't care, she already knew. Again, when I told my mom- all she said was "I know". Apparently, I was the last person to realize that I was trans.

2. Insurance companies are the literal WORST


If you want to start HRT or try and have any type of surgery; good luck my friend. You will become BFF's with your insurance company (if you're lucky enough to have one). In the past month my mom and I have called my insurance company and doctors offices at least twenty times, and I still don't have an initial appointment to even start HRT.

3. You're going to want a therapist 


If you don't already have one, you're going to want a therapist. Your therapist is going to be your second biggest BFF (aside from the insurance company). Not only is it super great to have someone to talk to about your new life (it's not new, it's just new living it in front of people), but you have to have one to get your letters to start HRT or be considered for therapy.

4. You'll have a lot of questions & you'll have to answer a lot of questions


Coming out means people have a lot of questions- you don't have to answer any of these questions if you don't want to. On top of the questions everyone has for you, you're going to have a lot of questions for yourself and everyone else too. Take time to find the right answers. What name you want, if you want to change your name, what pronouns to use, what doctors to use, and anything and everything in between.

5. Being out is the most freeing feeling in the world


Take this time and enjoy it. Being in the closet is difficult and being out is so rewarding. The road ahead of you is long and it won't always be easy, there will still be hard times but you're on the way up now. Just take care of yourself.

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17 'Winnie The Pooh' Quotes To Remember When You're About To Have A Final Exam Panic Attack

"People say nothing is impossible, but I do nothing every day."


Stressed AF about finals?

Let Pooh take the wheel:

1. "You're braver than you believe and stronger and smarter than you think." 

2. "Think it over, think it under." 

3. "Rivers know this: there is no hurry. We shall get there some day." 

4. "People say nothing is impossible, but I do nothing every day." 

5. "It is more fun to talk with someone who doesn't use long, difficult words but rather short, easy words like "What about lunch?"

6.  "Think, think, think." 

7. "The nicest thing about the rain is that it always stops. Eventually." 

8. "Could be worse. Not sure how, but it could be." 

9. "To the uneducated, an A is just three sticks." 

10. "Home is the comfiest place to be." 

11. "So perhaps the best thing to do is to stop writing introductions, and get on with the book." 

12. "I must go forward to where I have never been instead of backwards where I have." 

13. "One of the advantages of being disorganized is that one is always having surprising discoveries." 

14. "Life is a journey to be experienced, not a problem to be solved." 

15. "It never hurts to keep looking for sunshine." 

16. "Sometimes, if you stand on the bottom rail of a bridge and lean over to watch the river slipping slowly away beneath you, you will suddenly know everything there is to be known."

17. My spelling is Wobbly. It's good spelling but it Wobbles, and the letters get in the wrong places."

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5 Songs to Add to Your Playlist This Month

Spring into finals week (and the summer) by "cleaning up" your playlist


Here are some fun, fresh new tracks to check out as you finish out the rest of the school year and help you get out of your "music comfort zone!"

“Patience” by Tame Impala 

Genre: Electronic/Alternative

Tame Impala FINALLY released new music (!!), and this track is absolutely stunning. With frontrunner Kevin Parker staying on brand with the band's psychedelic, seemingly ethereal style, it sounds like a combination of 70s soft rock and waves of modern-day electronica, with Parker's voice drifting in and out in a kind of otherworldly, mellowed-out manner.

“Harmony Hall” by Vampire Weekend 

Genre: Alternative/Indie Pop

Vampire Weekend is also releasing an album, entitled "Father of the Bride", on May 3rd. From the looks of it, this track relates to the theme of marriage/weddings present in the album's title, and it is a fun, upbeat song that I have been listening to a lot in the morning as I'm getting ready for class! Ezra Koenig's voice is so unique and can cover a broad range, and I highly recommend listening to some of the band's other work as well ("Step" from their 2013 release "Modern Vampires of the City" is one of my all-time favorite songs!).

“Ready to Let Go” by Cage the Elephant 

Genre: Alternative/Alternative Rock

So many great artists are (finally) releasing new albums this year, and Cage the Elephant falls into this category. This track is an absolute banger and doesn't stray much from the band's style in that it includes a lot of loud guitar and dynamic vocals. Like Vampire Weekend, Cage the Elephant has been around since the early 2000s, and I highly recommend checking out some of their earlier work as well (big fan of their most recent album, actually!)

“Apple Orchard” by Beach House 

Genre: Indie/Electronic

Beach House is one of my favorite bands of all time, as I find a kind of an ethereal, beautiful sadness in the dreamy style of instrumentalist Alex Scally and lucid vocals of singer Victoria Legrand. This track is from their 2006 self-titled debut and is probably one of my favorite songs they've ever released. The lyrics are poetic and perfect for the post-finals enjoyment of spring weather, in that they preach relaxation and restfulness, and the song's electronic rhythms echo the essence of spring as well. If you like this song, then I highly recommend checking out the band's other albums as well (Depression Cherry is one of my favorite albums of all time).

“April Come She Will” by Simon & Garfunkel 

Genre: 60s Pop

No spring playlist is complete without a little Simon & Garfunkel! This song is a classic, its timeless, poetic lyrics capturing the epitome of the coming of spring and all its glory. In fact, I consider the entire album (entitled Sound of Silence) to be perfect for the pleasantness and feelings of renewal/natural revitalization associated with the coming months, so be sure to give it a listen if you haven't heard it before!

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