Recommended for you

Start writing a post

Entertainment

5 Huge Things You Can Only Learn After You've Come Out As Transgender

It's been over a year and I've learned a lot so far.

Cas Barbour

Feb 25, 2019

LGBTQ+ at Odyssey

125

5 Huge Things You Can Only Learn After You've Come Out As Transgender

Coming out as a trans guy has been one of the coolest things I have ever done, but it has also been really scary and frustrating at times. In the past year and a half (ish) I've learned a lot about myself and life as a trans person.

1. I was the last one to know that I was trans

Giphy

When I came to my best friend all she did was ask me what I wanted for dinner because she genuinely didn't care, she already knew. Again, when I told my mom- all she said was "I know". Apparently, I was the last person to realize that I was trans.

2. Insurance companies are the literal WORST

Giphy

If you want to start HRT or try and have any type of surgery; good luck my friend. You will become BFF's with your insurance company (if you're lucky enough to have one). In the past month my mom and I have called my insurance company and doctors offices at least twenty times, and I still don't have an initial appointment to even start HRT.

3. You're going to want a therapist

Giphy

If you don't already have one, you're going to want a therapist. Your therapist is going to be your second biggest BFF (aside from the insurance company). Not only is it super great to have someone to talk to about your new life (it's not new, it's just new living it in front of people), but you have to have one to get your letters to start HRT or be considered for therapy.

4. You'll have a lot of questions & you'll have to answer a lot of questions

Giphy

Coming out means people have a lot of questions- you don't have to answer any of these questions if you don't want to. On top of the questions everyone has for you, you're going to have a lot of questions for yourself and everyone else too. Take time to find the right answers. What name you want, if you want to change your name, what pronouns to use, what doctors to use, and anything and everything in between.

5. Being out is the most freeing feeling in the world

Giphy

Take this time and enjoy it. Being in the closet is difficult and being out is so rewarding. The road ahead of you is long and it won't always be easy, there will still be hard times but you're on the way up now. Just take care of yourself.

From Your Site Articles

Cool Off with These 8 Beers!

North Carolina State University

1239

Summer is hot and humid, and it's almost like summer was made specifically to drink the refreshing, cold, crisp wonderful, delicious, nutritious nectar of the gods. Which is none other than beer; wonderful cold beer. With summer playing peek-a-boo around the corner while we finish up this semester, it's time to discuss the only important part of summer. And if you haven't already guessed, it's beer. There are few things I take more seriously than my beer, in order are: sports... and beer. Here are my favorite summer brews:

Keep Reading...Show less

beer

Recommended for you

5 Huge Things You Can Only Learn After You've Come Out As Transgender

It's been over a year and I've learned a lot so far.

1. I was the last one to know that I was trans

2. Insurance companies are the literal WORST

3. You're going to want a therapist

4. You'll have a lot of questions & you'll have to answer a lot of questions

5. Being out is the most freeing feeling in the world

Subscribe to our Newsletter

Appreciation for some of life's most discredited pleasures.

1. Sun showers

2. Smiles

3. Tight hugs

4. Discovering new foods you like.

5. Laying in bed after a long day.

6. And being completely relaxed

7. "This reminded me of you"

8. Breakfast foods

9. Over-sized clothes

10. Contagious laughs

11. Car rides with that one person

12. Random (I miss you/ I love you) texts

13. The city at night

14. Surprises

15. Blanket cocoons

16. Good hair days

17. Really good coffee

18. Days where you're in a good mood naturally and for no particular reason

19. Conquering a fear

20. When they give you a lot of guac at Chipotle

21. Being so comfortable with someone that you can literally talk about anything

22. Home-cooked meals

23. Tattoo stories

24. Leaves changing color in fall

25. Butterflies in your stomach

26. Peanut butter & jelly sandwiches

27. When you can't stop laughing

Cool Off with These 8 Beers!

Coors Light Summer Brew:

Leinenkugel Summer Shandy

Leinenkugel Sunset Wheat

Want to know more about beer?

Sam Adams Summer Ale

Hell or High Watermelon

Blue Moon Summer Honey

LandShark Lager

Corona

75 degrees and sunny, plus, no humidity. I mean do I really need to say more?

Perfect Weather

You'll get an effortless tan

You can exercise with a view

You don't have to worry about bug bites

In n Out all day, every day

We have outdoor concerts

We live where people vacation

Because let's be honest, we all use lyrics.

1. “Don’t get too close, it’s dark inside. It's where my demons hide.”

2. “Tonight, we are young.”

3. “Cuz I may be bad, but I’m perfectly good at it.”

4. “Tell me how they got that pretty little face on that pretty little frame.”

5. “I can’t wait to fall in love with you, you can’t wait to fall in love with me.”

6. “Sweatpants, hair tied, chillin with no makeup on.”

7. “Why you so obsessed with me?”

8. “We ain’t ever getting older.”

9. “I didn’t know that I was starving until I tasted you.”

10. “Didn’t they tell you I’m a savage?"

11. “I’m gonna make you miss me.”

12. "Cheers to the freakin weekend.”

13. “Love’s a game. Wanna play?”

14. “You don’t know about me, but I bet you want to.”

15. “Let’s set each other’s lonely nights, Be each other’s paradise.”

16. “Trippin’ on skies, sippin’ waterfalls."

17. “Wish we could turn back time, to the good old days.”

18. “But you will remember me for centuries.”

19. “Something about you makes me feel like a dangerous woman."

20. “Don’t act like it’s a bad thing to fall in love with me.”

21. “Darling, I’m a nightmare dressed like a daydream.”

22. “Find me where the wild things are.”

23. “I’m high on lovin’ you.”

24. “If you’re gonna be somebody’s heartbreak, somebody’s mistake, if you’re gonna be somebody’s first time, somebody’s last time, be mine.”

Subscribe to our
Newsletter

1. "Talk about a dream
Try to make it real
You wake up in the night
With a fear so real
Spend your life waiting
For a moment that just don't come
Well don't waste your time waiting." (Badlands)