'Tough love' is a bittersweet concept that sucks at the time, but can be extremely beneficial in the long run. There is truth to the idea that every girl needs a strong male figure in their life, and this strength comes with many different faces. A young girl needs to be able to look up to a man who can exemplify kindness and fortitude simultaneously. For me, the person I look to is a bald, anti-social, and a very serious man — my father. Although he may appear intimidating, he is actually the nicest man that I know and has a unique sense of humor. Although lectures about school and spending money grow annoying sometimes, the tough love teaches you lessons and guides you throughout your future. I have learned so much from my father, even if I do not realize so initially.
My dad is a proponent of responsibility and seeing everything you do to the end. I remember that when I was in sixth grade, I decided to try cheerleading (not the best choice I have made in my life). As the season continued, I began to detest it more and more everyday, and eventually came home crying. I voiced my hatred for cheerleading and wanted to quit. My dad seemed to have no sympathy for me, at first, and refused to let me do so. Of course, at the age of 13, his actions angered me and I thought he wanted to ruin my life. Now, at the age of 20, I reflect on this memory and understand that he was teaching me the value of commitment and determination. Ever since that moment, I often feel tempted to resign and remember my father's words. I have yet to fall short of completing what I have started.
What better example of 'tough love' than life? Life is clearly not easy, and you cannot always win. For instance, my dad recognizes firsthand that life does not always favor you. Prior to my senior meet for cross country, I was undefeated on my home course since junior year. I felt self-assured before the race started, but my confidence was shaken when a competitor passed me at the two mile mark. After I crossed the finish line, I was devastated, but my dad told me to hold my head up high and to walk off the course like if I had won — in a respectful manner. That day, he demonstrated that regardless of your victories or losses, the way you carry yourself ultimately builds character and defines who you are.
Most importantly, I have learned how to care for others and be part of a family. He has highlighted what a healthy relationship looks like through his love and respect toward my mom everyday. Through example, he has shown me that family comes first since he always tries to save time for family despite a busy work schedule.
'Tough love' can be hard to face, but I will always understand and view it as a sign of care. Whether it is a tweet about my race results or a text checking up on my academic progress, I know that my dad cares about me and will always be proud of everything I accomplish. A dad can be a bigger part of life than you may think; you just have to look beyond the stern figure and see the father who lovingly offers you guidance through life.
