Breakups suck. Theres no way to sugarcoat it. The greatest band in the world, Blink-182, happens to do an excellent job at putting all your feelings during a breakup into music. Below are some of their lyrics from various songs decoded to give you some insight about breakups.
"I’ve been here, before, a few times, and I’m quite, aware, we’re dying.”
There comes a certain point in almost every relationship when you or your parter or both realize you don’t feel the same way about each other as you did when you first started dating. This can be due to a lot of things, from disagreements to just doing the same thing over and over again. Regardless, you both know what is to come, and you prepare for the worst.
"And your hands, they shake, with goodbyes."
This is it. Most likely the last time you’ll see your former significant other without it being extremely awkward and having to take a detour through the baking aisle at the grocery store because you saw them walking towards you.
"And I’ll miss, your laugh, your smile."
It’s completely normal to miss things about your now ex-partner. You were so used to having them around that you got used to all their little quirks, like how every time they did laundry they would put on the same song and do this really weird dance, but you thought it was the cutest thing ever.
"Where are you? And I’m so sorry, I cannot sleep, I cannot dream tonight."
Losing sleep is another common side effect of a breakup. Attaining sleep is not easy, with all the regrets and questions spinning around in your head late at night. Not to mention you used to go to bed only after you would get the goodnight text or call, and sleep soundly knowing that your partner was also asleep. Now that, too, is gone, and you’re left alone with all your crazy thoughts to keep you up until your body eventually loses the ability to stay awake.
"Like indecision to call you, and hear your voice of treason.”
Calling an ex-partner, especially while under the influence of alcohol, can be a common trend among people who miss their partners. However, you could just be completely sober and think you have no one else to talk to or no one else who understands you like they did. Either way, it is extremely important to use discretion when considering this. However, it's usually better to find someone else to talk to so you can avoid catching any feelings back that you used to have or are close to ditching.
"I will go down as your lover, your friend."
Sometimes the post-breakup sadness gets a little too extreme. You may think that you can’t be anything but what you once were for your ex-partner. After all, for a while you didn’t know how to be much else, and with the way you feel right now you don’t want to move on and become that for anyone else. This feeling is completely normal, however it is important to realize that things will get better and you will indefinitely be able to move on after an ample amount of time.
"I’m lost without you."
After a breakup, you may honestly feel completely lost. You were so used to having your partner around and now that they’re not there, you’re not sure what you’re supposed to do anymore. They were always there to help you make decisions and to just be there for you, in general. Now, all that is gone and you're left to deal with everything on your own - something you are not used to at all.
"You’ve been here for too long, to face this on your own."
Some people may have been with their partner for such a long time that they forget how to be single. Its quite the transition, and its definitely not something that comes easy to everyone. You now have to fend for yourself after someone had your back for such a long time.
"And I’ll smile, and you’ll wave, we’ll pretend, its okay."
Remember when I said earlier that the last not awkward moment with your partner moment was upon you? Yeah, now it’s awkward. You’ll more than likely see your ex-partner somewhere at some point in the future. And trust me, you won’t expect it at all and it definitely won’t happen at a convenient time. One of many things could happen: you could just run and not look back, you could pretend that everything is cool, or it could trigger you into some crazy psychological state that just hardcore messes with you. Either way, its going to be awkward and you're probably going to end up texting one of your friends about what just happened and totally freak out.
"Well I guess this is growing up."
Breaking up with someone is something that almost everyone will experience at some point in their life. It really is just a part of growing up. It teaches you that not everything you care about is going to be around forever, including the people you've loved the most. Though they may not be around forever, it is important to carry what you learned and what you experienced from being with that person with you forever. That kind of stuff is priceless, and can often be more valuable than the relationship itself in the long run.
