In the lifetime of just about every human being, there is an ultimate quest to find one's 'person.' This person is often regarded as a soulmate, life partner, or other half to oneself. In each one of our lives it seems we are in a race to find that one special person that we can call our own. It is as though we are not content until we discover this person and start some sort of a life with them. Wherever you are in your own life, if you have not yet found this 'person,' do not be discouraged, for it may not be exactly who you think it is.
As humans our goal is to seek and find love in our lives, to give it to others and thus receive it back. It should be no secret that love is the greatest gift, the most powerful force in our world. There are many kinds of love, and all different kinds of relationships that foster the different kinds of love. In regards to finding that special someone, the kind of love that we seek is typically romantic. Here is the catch that we all must realize though: each one of us has a certain calling in our lives. I believe that we all have our own unique purpose and vocation that we are called to live out in this life. With that being said, not every single one of us will ultimately find that romantic love, and that's okay. Not all of us are meant to. Does that mean you will miss out on the great gifts that love gives, or that your life will never truly be fulfilled? Of course not! It simply means that one's greatest earthly love will come to them in a different form.
For those of us who have found that special someone that we hope to, or are currently spending the rest of our lives with, that is absolutely wonderful. But for many of us who are still searching, do not give up hope - the right person always comes along at the right time. With this romantic love that many of us seek, we must also remember that there is no set time that we must find this person. Some people find their lifelong love at the age of 16 and never look back. Others take a few more years - and people - to sort out who that special someone is. Some wait half their lives and then suddenly they find the one that they have been so long searching for. All of these scenarios are perfectly okay - not every single person is meant to be committed and settled down by the age of 25 or 30. What we should never do is compare our own search or journey of love with someone else's, because we are each on our own unique path, and there is no "perfect time" for anything.
For the rest of us who may not be called to that romantic love and marriage, that special person may end up being in the form of a best friend or family member. Or rather, what if I told you that 'person' could be yourself? I think that regardless of who we are meant to love, we should all come to love ourselves and who we are. This world often says that our greatest happiness lies in the heart of someone else - that our deepest desires and euphoria can only be found through other people. But if we solely place our happiness and love in the people of this world, we will never truly attain what we desire most. We have to realize that we alone have control of our ultimate love and happiness. It is up to us to decide how we attain the this happiness and love that we all long for.
Ultimately, each and every single person is meant to love, to love ourselves and others. We seek to find love, and we wish to give it out. Truly, our 'someone' can be anyone at any time in our lives. Love is the strongest and most intimate part that makes up our humanity. Life is simply just a journey of love - many, many kinds of it. Once we discover this love in ourselves and for the person that we are, that is when we can truly give it out to all those around us.
