To The Person Who Puts Themselves On the Back Burner

To The Person Who Puts Themselves On the Back Burner

It's OK to be selfish.

Yes, I know who you are. You’re the person that always puts others before yourself. You can probably count on one hand the amount of times you put yourself first.

Even when you find yourself in tough places, you find a reason to put others before you. You smile and act like nothing is wrong because you don’t want to bring others down.

But I know you and I know when you say nothing is wrong, you’re lying, aren’t you? You could have just had the worst day but you save it for when you are alone. You can’t risk bringing other people down with you.

You’re the person everyone comes to when they need advice. You’re quick to talk others through their problems and lend a helping hand. They know they can come to you in a judge free zone. You’re the friend that everyone calls on when they have a broken heart or need a pick me up. You drop whatever you’re doing when you think someone needs you.

You would do anything for the ones that mean the most to you and I think that is such an admirable trait in a person. There’s not a lot of people like that left in this world.

There’s so many people too consumed with themselves to even know or care about what is happening in the world around them. But not you, you have respect for the lives of the people around you and couldn’t imagine doing the slightest thing to change that.

I know all this because I am just like you.

I am here to tell you, living like this can actually become stressful. Even though there is absolutely nothing wrong with putting others before yourself, sometimes you need to put your dreams and your happiness above the rest.

Sometimes I wonder how much simpler somethings in life could have been if I would have put myself first. Even when we tell ourselves we are going to stop doing this, we do it anyway. You know, the thing when we put others before us even it hurts or inconveniences us.

It is actually OK to put yourself first.

It is absolutely OK to put yourself first. It does not make you any less of the wonderful person that you are. How can you let yourself always be there for others if you’re not there for yourself? It can eventually affect your physically and even more so, your mental health.

It is OK to make decisions for yourself.

Make choices that are for you. Follow your dreams and take the path that you want, not what you think others want for you. You have to at some point. Do what is best for you.

Believe it or not, you wouldn’t be upsetting those around you if you were honest when you needed help. If those people were true to you they would be willing to tend just as much of a hand when you needed it, as you are to them.

You have to find a balance. One that allows you to be the loving, caring, put others before yourself person that you are, while still being able to release your emotion as well. Still be there for others while letting them be there for you in the process.

It does not make you selfish.

Not at all. You deserve all the happiness in the world. You are counted on for so much from so many people, so it is OK to put yourself first sometimes. Don’t forget that in order to please others, you need to take some time for yourself. You’re worth it.
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5 Perks Of Having A Long-Distance Best Friend

The best kind of long-distance relationship.

Sometimes, people get annoyed when girls refer to multiple people as their "best friend," but they don't understand. We have different types of best friends. There's the going out together best friend, the see each other everyday best friend and the constant, low maintenance best friend.

While I'm lucky enough to have two out of the three at the same school as me, my "low maintenance" best friend goes to college six hours from Baton Rouge.

This type of friend is special because no matter how long you go without talking or seeing each other, you're always insanely close. Even though I miss her daily, having a long-distance best friend has its perks. Here are just a few of them...

1. Getting to see each other is a special event.

Sometimes when you see someone all the time, you take that person and their friendship for granted. When you don't get to see one of your favorite people very often, the times when you're together are truly appreciated.

2. You always have someone to give unbiased advice.

This person knows you best, but they probably don't know the people you're telling them about, so they can give you better advice than anyone else.

3. You always have someone to text and FaceTime.

While there may be hundreds of miles between you, they're also just a phone call away. You know they'll always be there for you even when they can't physically be there.

4. You can plan fun trips to visit each other.

When you can visit each other, you get to meet the people you've heard so much about and experience all the places they love. You get to have your own college experience and, sometimes, theirs, too.

5. You know they will always be a part of your life.

If you can survive going to school in different states, you've both proven that your friendship will last forever. You both care enough to make time for the other in the midst of exams, social events, and homework.

The long-distance best friend is a forever friend. While I wish I could see mine more, I wouldn't trade her for anything.

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14 Things You Relate To If You Grew Up WithOUT Any Cousins

*GASP* "What, you really don't have any cousins?"


It always shocks every person who hears me state that I do not have any cousins. For some reason, this is just hard for people to really believe when it's actually not something impossible. I think we are all just so used to large families that it sounds weird when people say that they have no cousins. Yet, it is definitely a potential reality, and actually impossible if each of your parents is the only child to your grandparents.

Here are 14 things that you can relate to if you grew up without any cousins.

1. Nobody believes you when you say that you don't have any cousins

I'm serious, for the tenth time.

2. Your grandparents spoil you

With no other grandchildren to worry about, it's pretty easy to do.

3. You don't understand when people say that cousins are your first best friends

My best friend was my first best friend.

4. You and your siblings are always the youngest people at family events

This was simultaneosuly a good thing and a bad thing.

5. You get all of the attention at holidays

Since you're the youngest one around, then distant relatives are always doting over you.

6. Everything you do is deemed awesome by your extended family because there is nobody to compete with

It's much easier to be praised when you aren't being compared to someone similar to your age.

7. You don't know how to hold babies

You're never around them so why would you?

8. Family photos are pretty easy to coordinate

The less people, the easier.

9. Other family members spoil you just because 

Afterall, you are the only kid around...

10. The family will make comments regarding the potential for you to have a cousin as a justification for why they aren't doing something for you

When you hear, "I can't buy you too much because someday your aunt is going to have kids and I will have to do the same for them" you cringe and just had to know that all of the attention wouldn't last forever.

11. Birthdays are always a big deal

A perk of not having very many to remember.

12. If your parents' siblings own pets, then you refer to the animal as your cousin

Cat cousins, dog cousins, lizard cousins, and fish cousins can be pretty cool, actually.

13. Sometimes you dream of marrying into a big family

This is to ensure that your kids do grow up with cousins.

14. You appreciate the closeness of your tight-knit fam

Maybe the only thing you would miss if you had a big family is the opportunity to develop such close bonds with the few relatives that you do have.

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