To the Person Who Has a Lot of Friends But Doesn't Belong Anywhere

To the Person Who Has a Lot of Friends But Doesn't Belong Anywhere

You are blessed and you are loved by many. So please ignore those negative thoughts that tell you otherwise.
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You are blessed and you are loved by many. So please ignore those negative thoughts that tell you otherwise.

You’re a friendly person, a social butterfly, making friends wherever you are, wherever you go. You touch many hearts with your fun personality and caring demeanor.

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However, I understand because there are days when you feel like there is no one to hang out with. All your friends are busy hanging out with someone else or you check your social media and see that all your friends are in their respective groups hanging out and having fun. You question why it’s hard for you to belong anywhere.

But I just want to let you know that you’re important. You’re not overlooked. You’re not forgotten. You are truly loved despite what your inner thoughts are saying in your head. You may not belong to a certain group of friends. But the fact that you are welcomed to so many groups says so much about your personality.

The fact that you have so many friends means that you have many whom you can rely on and who can rely on you.

You’re not the only person who feels this way. In fact, I know this feeling of loneliness. I also feel self-doubt in my ability to have friends and keep them. I, too, question why I can’t have one group of friends that I can constantly rely on.

But I realize now that it’s silly for me and you to feel this way. It’s not about belonging. It’s about doing. It’s about being there for others even if they aren’t there for you. It’s about giving love as much as your heart can allow. It’s not about being special, but making others feel special.

Stop looking for a place to belong. You’re not the type of person that belongs to one group. You’re meant to bring happiness to so many more. Cheers to you who doesn’t belong in one place. You’re a friend that everyone loves, and that should be more than enough to make you realize that you belong in a special place in their hearts.

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When you start to grow up, you realize some people become adults and start having their own way of life that sometimes you don't agree with. For me, it was realizing some people actually care about calories and sugar intake, and I began to get turned down when I would ask my best friends if they wanted to get ice cream with me. But then I got a niece, and we are currently about 27 for 27 with accepting my offers for an ice cream date.

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When everyone else in the world is doubting you, you'll always have your little sidekick who hasn't got a doubt in the world that you can do it. You are her cool aunt, and you are perfect and she loves you more than anything in the world.

3. She'll tell you if your dress doesn't match your shoes.

Are you really going to wear that to the party, Paigey? She always wants you to look like the princesses she watches on Disney Channel every day. She tells it like it is, because she doesn't really know any better, and that is something you just don't get in a lot of your peers anymore... Mostly because they aren't five years old, and they have a filter, unlike her.

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1. Do they have everything I could want to study?

This seemed a little tedious when I was first applying. I thought I was dead set on doing political science. But, I changed my mind four times in just my first semester of college. Unfortunately, I was at a school with seven majors total at the time. I did not have the room to change my mind. When I transferred, I had all the extra room I could possibly want to change from political science to chemical engineering to philosophy to my major now PPEL (politics, philosophy, economics, and law). The benefit of having this extra room to change your mind is so extremely important.

​2. Be Goldie Locks: Make sure the size is JUST RIGHT.

The first college I went to had 62 undergraduates. I cannot stress enough how important it is to make sure the size is perfect for you. Sometimes a little too big is better than too small though. Weigh out the benefits of a big school versus a smaller school and use personal experience to figure out what you would prefer.

3. Study Abroad!

If study abroad is something you're passionate about, make sure it's offered! I know that sounds kind of weird but my first college didn't even offer study abroad. If this is an option you could want but don't even necessarily need make sure it's offered. It's always better to leave the door open.

4. Make sure there's a community that fits your needs.

For me, it was a Hillel or Chabad. For you, it could be a different religious organization, it could be a club that falls into your political belief, an honors society, greek life, whatever you want. It's always up to your own personal preferences. The more you research about the social aspect of the school, the more options you know you have to choose from.

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