Sometimes it feels like it happened just yesterday, and sometimes it feels like it's been an entire lifetime. The day you lost your best friend, your rock was the worst day of your life that you will relive your entire life. Maybe for you it is new, or maybe it's been eight years, but losing your mother hurts you and changes you in ways not many people can fully understand.
It's once again the time of year that all of your Facebook and Instagram friends post about how they have the best mother in the world, and it sucks.
Focus on the happy memories.
I know that it's much easier, especially today, to think about how she isn't here with you or remember that day it happened. Don't do that to yourself. Focus on the happy memories you had with her. Part of the reason it hurts to badly is because it was so amazing while she was here, so I know you have those memories to rely on. For me, I focus on the days before she passed, which coincidentally are the best days of my life even eight years later.
It's OK to be jealous.
This is something that I struggle with a lot, even after my mother has been gone for eight years. I'm here to tell you that it is okay. It's natural to see those pictures on social media of your friends with their mom and feel a little jealous. Just don't let that jealousy consume you. If you do, you will fall into a deep hole of depression that is hard to get out of. Trust me.
It's OK to be sad.
Losing a mother is very hard to deal with, and it hurts. It is OK to be sad, it's even expected. But I must stress again that it is so important that you don't let it consume you. Focusing on those happy memories will help with this. Remember that your mother doesn't want you to live in sadness over her. So once you've been sad make sure to be happy, too, because you are still allowed happiness. Don't feel guilty about allowing yourself to be happy without her, she wants you to be happy.
It's OK to be mad.
What happened to us is unfair, and no one can argue with that. Losing a mother, especially at a young age, is not fair. I don't care if it is the natural circle of life; the natural circle of life sucks.
You are not alone.
I find peace in knowing that my mother is watching over me from Heaven. Some may disagree with that, but I fully believe that she is with me every step of the way. I can feel her embrace when I need it the most, I can feel her in the wind, and sometimes I even hear her voice telling me what I need to do. Your mother did not stop being your mother the day she left you, so remember to still be thankful that for her.
Happy Mother's Day to all the motherless children out there. Remember on Mother's Day, and every day, how amazing your mother was while she was here. Be thankful that your mother is so important to you because not everyone is blessed with a mother as wonderful as yours.
To those of you that have your mother on Mother's Day, shower her with love because she deserves it. Don't let silly arguments get in the way. Don't take her for granted because there are people out there, myself included, that would give absolutely anything to get that chance.
