If I’m being honest with you, I don’t feel qualified at all to talk friendships with you. I may be extroverted and goofy, but I have a nasty habit of pushing people away when I need them most. And I am here to tell you that finding Christ in every relationship we have will only help us grow and become stronger women.
Nobody's perfect, and I will be the first to stand on my little podium and tell you that I certainly am not perfect, BUT that doesn't mean I can't try to be. It doesn't mean I have to give up and call it quits on relationships. The fact that I'm flawed does not mean that I'm going to give in to the lies and the obstacles, because I'm just a tad too stubborn to let something so superficial beat me.
Because if I'm really honest? I crave those real, authentic, godly relationships more than I crave cookie dough ice cream (which is saying something). I have this innate desire for community, a deep longing for someone I can count on. And I bet if you're honest, you do, too.
The longing for special relationships exists in everyone, because God placed it in us. And believe it or not, we have the ability to obtain those relationships that we crave more than anything in this world. But first we need to trust in Him and purify our thoughts so he can provide us what we need. We have to let Love change us.
"Bad company corrupts good character."
Let me be the first to tell you that that statement is so true. If you hang around toxic and mean people, you too will soon turn into a toxic and mean person! If you crave that feeling of God in your friendships and most importantly relationships, you need to seek those with a kind and loving heart.
(Proverbs 13:20 NIV) Walk with the wise and become wise, for a comparison of fools suffers harm.
"We should put God ahead of everyone else in our lives"
Yes! Yes! Yes! Our Heavenly Father truly is our best friend and should be our first priority. Seek for his love and guidance before you search for false love and guidance in someone on earth. Gain that relationship with Christ and let him pour into you before you attempt to pour into others.
(Isaiah 58:11 NIV) "The Lord will guide you always; he will satisfy your needs in a sun-scorched land and will strengthen your frame. You will be like a well-watered garden, like a spring whose waters never fail."
Be Intentional.
You want a better, closer, godly relationship with them? Tell them. You want their trust and to be able to help them and be there for them? Tell them. Ask them how you can help and what you can be praying for. You want to know what's on their heart? Ask them, and if they don't give a straight answer, Pray for them and with them. Be honest, be real, be encouraging. Study the Word together, serve together, laugh together. Call them and blow their phone up with a whole bunch of hilarious memes. Check on them, send them silly jokes and book recs. If you need a friend or someone's hand to hold, humble yourself and ask. Make your intentions clear. You don't have to be perfect at it, but you do have to start.
