You know, they say relationships come in unexpected ways. I never really believed someone when they said “oh you'll find someone one day who just sweeps you off your feet. Just be patient." Let's be real, most girls do not know how to be patient when it comes to finding her “happily ever after." They say you always fall in love three times. The first, you do not consider it love, the second teaches you a lot and hurts you the worst and the third is the one that comes so unexpectedly and teaches you everything you need to know
I spent 1 year of my life with someone who barely talked to me, barely wanted to be around me, cheated on me, treated me like I was just a rock in the dirt and then broke my heart. My first heartbreak. Never thought I would've gotten over it, but with family and friends, I did. 3 months after that, I met my second love. Spent three years of my life being controlled, being told I was not pretty because I didn't have blonde hair and I wasn't “thick." Being told if I did this or I wouldn't have boyfriend anymore. Even listened to when he told me not to go to the college I had always wanted to go to because I would be away from him and if I went, I wouldn't have a boyfriend. Now I'm behind in school, but making my way slowly to the end. 3 years of wondering why I was never good enough, since every other week it was “I don't know if I want this anymore" or “I'm just not ready to be in a relationship right now" while he was off talking to other females and then coming back to me when he was tired of messing around.
June 9th, 2018. I woke up and went to work. That day I had planned on going to work and then going to a pool party at my best friends house. I told my ex I was going to work and that after I was going to her house. I got the run around.. yelled at, told if I went I wouldn't have a boyfriend because “your friends are hoes." And that was my last straw. For the last time, I was tired of being controlled, I was tired of being treated like I was your child. I was tired of the way you talked to me and the way you talked about my friends. So I ended it. And then you came along... I had no idea who you were. I had never seen you a day in my life, didn't even know what your name was. But there was something about you that just attracted me to you. Not sure if it was your looks, your personality, your beard, your voice, or maybe all of it. After flirting and talking back and forth, I realized I had started to develop a crush on someone I didn't even know... never would I have pictured that one. Never would I have pictured me clicking so well with someone like I did with you.
The next day we got to hang out more. You talked a lot and I was getting kind of annoyed, but I realized I talked a lot, too. Truth is, I liked hearing you talk about your fishing lures. The next day you messaged me and asked for my number, but I turned you down and said we could just talk on messenger. Then I gave you my Snapchat and well, the rest is history.
We talked every single day, but it seemed like we weren't really getting anywhere, but I was still hoping that we would be something one day. And then, it just happened. We started to hang out more and feelings developed more and more. Finally, we were able to say we were in a relationship and I was so happy.
Till this day, you make me the happiest girl on the face of the earth. Someone who is patient with me, no matter how many times I make you angry. Someone who supports me and urges me to follow my dreams. Someone who wants to see me succeed in life. You are singlehandedly the best thing that has ever been mine. I'm so glad we took everything slow how we did, but most importantly, I'm so glad you came into my life when you did. You took the broken me and made me whole without complaining. You listened to my stories about how awful I had been treated and till this day, you make sure you treat me so differently.
Till this day, I'm still so amazed at how it all happened. How someone I didn't know could mean so much to me. Ladies, be patient. The right man will come along and sweep you off your feet at the right time, trust me. If you are in a relationship that is draining you physically and mentally, GET OUT! Even when you feel like you can't, you can. And when you get away from all of the toxicity, you will be so glad that you gained the strength to get out and move on to do better for YOU! I pray that each of you who are experiencing an awful relationship, know your worth enough to do better for you!❤️
