This is for all the girls who have never had a relationship.

Now, if you are like me, you may have felt as though you weren’t good enough. It all started in middle school when dating became a thing. It wasn’t anything serious but the desire to be in a relationship was there. I know that for a fact insecurity was a huge factor in this all. We felt that if we had just been in a relationship at that moment, all of our insecurities would disappear. However, that is not true. This article is dedicated to all the girls who have never had a relationship.

I speak from experience when I say this, you don’t need someone to define your self-worth. You as a person should know that your worth more than that. You cannot expect someone to tell you how much your worth when you don’t even know. That is something that you need discover yourself, and it can be hard. I know that for a fact. I spent most of my high school not knowing my self-worth, yet expected someone to magically appear and show it to me. That was not the case, after years of trying to figure it out, and it wasn’t easy I did it. I’m not going to say that it one day just clicked, it took many tears and many walls to be broken down to find who I truly was. Looking back on those moments of wanting a relationship, I am so glad I didn’t have one.

In addition to knowing your self-worth, as cliché as it is, you need to love yourself before you can love someone else. Imagine trying to show someone the way out of a maze when you are still learning to get out of it yourself. It’s the same thing with learning to be in love. I mean this when I say it, you need to love yourself at the best moments and the worst moments in your life. The quirks and the unique things that make you who you are. You need to love the things that you count as flaws. I say this because when you learn to be in love with everything about you and who are, it shows a sense of confidence. When you learn that you don’t need a knight in shining armor to save you. The moment that you can walk with a sense of independence is the most attractive thing you can have. When you love yourself as much as you should, imagine how that will feel when that person comes along and absolutely adores you.

Finally, it’s okay to not have a relationship wherever you may be in your life. I am a sophomore in college and have never had a boyfriend, and you know what? I am totally okay with that. A lot of girls my age feel as though their time is running out in the dating world, but let me tell you this... you’re still young. There is no perfect age to be in a relationship and that is okay. I want to end with this. You are priceless, so don’t settle for someone who makes you feel any less than what you are.