You struggle with making everything feel like it’s your fault. Something goes wrong and you feel like you could have done something to make it better. If you would have done one thing differently or just tried a little harder, you could have made it work or kept it from happening.
But it isn’t always your fault and it isn’t always something you can control and that is okay. It is weird to feel like the weight of the world is on your shoulders, but it doesn’t have to be.
You are not responsible for making other people happy, but you are responsible for making yourself happy and part of that comes with knowing you can’t fix everything. Nobody is expecting you to fix everything or have everything under control all the time. If they are expecting that from you, they are wrong and you have everyone’s permission to put them in their place.
All of that being said, it doesn’t mean you should not care AT ALL or not try your best in every situation. You should always do your best and make sure you put yourself in a position to succeed.
If you have been given the chance to help others succeed, take full advantage but please do not blame yourself if they don’t take your advice or if they fail.
You are not responsible for their success more than you are your own just because you were supposed to “help” them. Helping someone doesn’t mean you take on their burden on top of yours. It means to guide them.
It’s okay to be compassionate and want to help, but it is not okay to take responsibility for things that aren’t completely in your control.
Worry about your own happiness and well-being. That is one thing you can be responsible for.
-A Girl Who Needs to Follow Her Own Advice
